calling out a Histrionic in my life

so i have a friend that, despite never being diagnosed, i am almost positive has Histrionic Personality Disorder. She exhibits every one of the traits necessary for being diagnosed... she has been going down a dark path for a long time now and i want to know if any of you would be able to give me some advice on how to call her out on her actions... i think that if she keeps going down this path, it will lead to her death... she needs help now and the only way i think this will happen is if i manage to convince all of our mutual friends that she has a problem and force her into an intervention... sadly, i dont think this is a very good plan.... please share stories of how you came to admit to your PD and any ideas that could prove useful to my cause! thanks

um... does your friend have a name by chance? lol. :/ hopefully it's not me, as you said your female friend. if your friend is in arizona you give me a PM and we'll see... lol...

so anyways, best way to talk to your friend... um...

don't know if there is a best way... but your going to have to come up with ALOT of supporting evidence and it's going to take a great deal of time (probably) to show them how all these little details add up to meaning they are HPD.

because otherwise your going to be inverting their entire interpretation of the world around them, not realizing they "just don't see a full picture" yet and they have to wrap their mind around the ability to see how their view of the world still fits into the "larger view" of a non disordered world.

does that analogy help? (also, happens to be a personal one from my life, lol...)

it is mentally a very very tough thing to prove to them that they are... it will be very hard for them to accept. -> because they aren't "wrong" they just don't see a "full picture" yet.

does that help?

- Labor.

-- Sat Feb 04, 2012 8:15 am --

BlackAndBlues wrote:so i have a friend that, despite never being diagnosed, i am almost positive has Histrionic Personality Disorder. She exhibits every one of the traits necessary for being diagnosed... she has been going down a dark path for a long time now and i want to know if any of you would be able to give me some advice on how to call her out on her actions... i think that if she keeps going down this path, it will lead to her death... she needs help now and the only way i think this will happen is if i manage to convince all of our mutual friends that she has a problem and force her into an intervention... sadly, i dont think this is a very good plan.... please share stories of how you came to admit to your PD and any ideas that could prove useful to my cause! thanks

also, as a side note... it might also just be easier to just help adjust her "paths" that she is going down than to fix her HPD. i mean... you could take actions one at a time... for example... if she is into excessive drinking... or chronic sleeping around... or drug use... etc.

btw, you must be a good friend to put up with the HPD! lol.

- Labor.

hey black before I admit my HPD
I wanted to kill this person who called me as HPD

well I recommend you to first read 'Emotional Vampires'
and recommend this book to her... lol

she can be annoying but she must very popular among guys

if she is real hpd hun!

hpd criteria is #######4 for amateurs to understand!!

once my friends all read about pd description book

and they neve ever never ever thought that I am HPD



and there was a person we were very sure(include me) to be a hpd because she had all the symptoms

but surprisingly she wasn't hpd ... but I WAS O.O

no lol labour you are not the friend.... her name is evelyn...
and i guess i didnt really explain the situation fullly.... there is a group of 5 of us including me and her... the other four met me because of her... one of the friends agrees with me that she is a textbook HPD and the other 2 members of the group consist of her best friend since birth and a girl that is in love with her...
anyways, i feel that if i were able to get the other 2 members to agree with me then i would be able to make her realize

thisislabor wrote:btw, you must be a good friend to put up with the HPD! lol.

and no im not that great of a friend trust me i am ASPD... helping her is just a side effect... im really doing this because she is incredibly effective at turning people on me.... the other day, for example, she was angry at me for not telling her something, i grabbed her ipod and then she tried to stop me from doing it... after that she scratched herself and convinced everyone else in the group that i physically grabbed her... she then told her boyfriend and he threatened to get a restraining order against me... obviously the accusations are baseless but that is when you know something has to be done.... i just happened upon the traits of HPDs and then i noticed that she matched all of them....

anyway, i Dont know so much that i need to convince her that she is a HPD, i think that it would be easier to convince the rest of the group who cares about her so much that she has it... one of her most dominant traits is that she needs approval (on top of that she has low self esteem)

i know that i am rambling but basically i think that if everyone around her tells her to get help she will give in and go to a shrink and he will tell her she needs help too

that sounds like a sound strategy. ... um ... good luck in handling your friend, and keep us posted on how it goes.

- Labor.

probably not going to go great just because of the rediculous loyalty of the other friends but i will keep you posted