example of HPD

I feel/believe.....

she loves me very much...best she can.
is not capable of commitment.
I suspect infidelity.
boasts of many sexual encounters.
admits to infidelity in every past relationship.
either very present and charming or extremely detected/aloof/cold to extremes.
at times ignores me but demands my full attention at all times...selfish.
immature/childlike fits of anger with light switch reactions/hair trigger temper/low tolerence often over extremely small incidents/situations often with lots of drama/overly emotional.
either very good communicator or impossible/interupts/refuses to listen.
self absorbed especially with her appearence/body/sexuality.
at times facade/artifice in persona.
few friends, none very close, very few are female, most are male.
appears to be a loner.
says she does not like to be center of attention/watched but I feel she does and I get the impression that she thinks all men want her.
agrumentative/confrontational/contradicts herself.
negative or negates me as often as possible.
almost daily refers to former lovers/last relationship/exhusband.
talks the talk but doesn't walk the walk.
pattern of frequently breaking off our relationship/engagement or threatening to with extreme absolutism.
never is to blame for anything...always the other persons fault especially in all past relationships.
needs all the conrol all the time.
I feel she is almost constantly in emotional pain, unhappy, yet she insists that she is happy.
does not budget her finances well.

don't walk....RUN

Your girlfriend's symptoms and signs seem to be spot on.

I suspect that eventually you will tire/grow angry with the fact that you are getting nothing back, and that she is endlessly superficial, and will want to end it.

That was my experience.

Wow, sounds like a classic case.
Any signs of BPD?

Adna wrote:Wow, sounds like a classic case.
Any signs of BPD?

Hi!

Why is it always Manic Depressive or some other mental disorder?
Wonder if it is just...the way somebody is?
justwondering

That's what I'm still saying about myself, but the men in the white coats keep insisting there is something wrong with me.

No, in all seriousness - personality disorders are merely extreme "extensions" (for lack of a better way of putting it) of what would be considered normal personality types. It does not mean everyone who exhibits some of these traits has a disorder, as over time we all exhibit these traits in our lives at some time or another. It's only when the behavior is makadaptive and interrupts normal life (work and social) functioning that it may be called a disorder. But I am just explaining it as I understand it. So, to answer your question - yes, it could just be the way someone is - but it is a fine line between calling when the expression of a personality is just that or when it is more pathological.

I don't think there are any doctors here anyway - that I'm aware of! - so no one is REALLY trying to diagnose anyone anyway - just give helpful suggestions of what people might consider. No one should take anything said here too literally, because everyone has different opinions on everything (as you'll find doctors do too!).