Still clearing my head from the haze of my exHPD

I just got out of a relationship with an HPD woman that lasted 6 months. I knew in the past that I had been raised into becoming codependent because of the extreme opposite feelings I got from my parents. (Dad was a codependent, Mom is a NPD). After my intuition was yelling at me so hard to get away from this woman that the nausea created from ignoring my intuition literally would cause me to throw up my last meal when I was in the midst of one of her manipulative plots. I realized I really needed to get help for my codependency. Since then I have read the book codependent no more and when I started getting sick but I was still with her I read the book emotional vampires which is how I identified her and eventually caused the loss of our relationship. There were a couple times I suspected that she stole from me though. I never got full proof but a couple of the times she was the only one who had been around between the time I knew I still had the object to the time that I realized it was completely missing. I read it tends to be Anti-social personality disorder that steals. I have also read however that people who are severe sufferers of a personality disorder tend to have a few traits from other disorders. My questions are is my intuition most likely right and that she did in fact steal from me? Do most HPDs steal or at least are susceptible to wanting and acting on an impulse to steal?

in my experience, my HPD friend stole things only when she had devalued someone - the later stages of the relationship. it didn't seem to be an impulse move on her part, but rather a revenge-type action. she didn't really steal many things of monetary value, either, she'd steal things that held some type of sentimental value to her ex (such as, a favorite t-shirt, a favorite movie, ect.) then, the most maddening thing of all, she would blameshift and claim the ex stole from HER (instead of what really happened, she stole from the ex. lol) usually, in the hPD's blameshifting story, the things that the ex had stolen from her had a lot of monetary value - an expensive bed, even a car. (when in reality, the ex had been trying to return these big-ticket items to her for months, she just wouldn't agree to set a time or place to accept the items.)

so yeah my HPD friend's theiving actions seemed to be more manipulations or revenge acts than real attempts to steal things. 'real attempts' at stealing being stealing things solely for money or personal gratification.

I can't say if this is true of many HPD's, but it was true of my friend.

Ah that makes sense. The first thing I suspected was a 20 dollar bill. Even though that is plainly monetary value she did it at a time when I was short on cash. The second thing was an inhaler. I don't normally use it but she took at a time when I was in the middle of a flu/cold and was using it a lot to fall asleep easier. She was use to me giving her money to get her out of her "impossible situations" being that she had no money of her own really. Before both things went missing I am pretty sure I denied her money to save her (being that I was beginning to suspect things and just couldn't afford to do it anymore) so them doing it out of some anger/punishment impulse rather than a self need/gratification impulse like an anti-social does makes total sense. Especially since HPDs have no real clue how to correctly express anger or disapproval of someones actions to them directly. Again never really did get any proof but i'm next to sure it was her. I guess just the fact I would accuse who was my gf at the time of stealing meant something really bad was wrong underneath.