george, I did have a manifesto up but deleted it - too much detail and I want to protect her privacy.
When it comes to 'beauty', and therefore sexual attraction, it seems to be in our nature (at least as men) to pour all kinds of emotions into a relationship we'd probably not pour in if she was physically unattractive. So maybe it would help to do an exercise in your head... imagine her many years from now, aged - think about how you'd feel about her behaviors and how they make you feel. Don't know if that will help or not.
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Re: HPD's and their 'web' of contacts?
by xdude » Sun Jun 05, 2011 12:49 pm
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Re: HPD's and their 'web' of contacts?
by george78 » Tue Jun 07, 2011 5:27 pm
xdude wrote:george, I did have a manifesto up but deleted it - too much detail and I want to protect her privacy.
When it comes to 'beauty', and therefore sexual attraction, it seems to be in our nature (at least as men) to pour all kinds of emotions into a relationship we'd probably not pour in if she was physically unattractive. So maybe it would help to do an exercise in your head... imagine her many years from now, aged - think about how you'd feel about her behaviors and how they make you feel. Don't know if that will help or not.
Good thing to protect her!
I'll try. I sometimes see the first histrionic person I met many years ago on the street. Once in a while I get some info what she's doing. When she looks at me she has such sad eyes. And I'm quite sure it's not because of the pain I suffered. She lost something with me. Perhaps she doesn't know how much she lost, but I do. I'm so completely indifferent towards her. She was mediocre and shallow then and she has not changed, I'm sure. SHE is the same I know. I have grown since then and it's not easy to impress me in a apparently 'deep' conversation.
Yesterday I talked to a girl who is very nice - at the same place I talked to HER first. She seems to be quite the opposite. It was nice smalltalk and we exchanged numbers and agreed to do things together. But during the conversation I was close to tears. I'm not sure, but I think because it was so easy while being at the place where my current struggle started.
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Re: HPD's and their 'web' of contacts?
by xdude » Thu Jun 09, 2011 1:28 am
george
I feel sorry for you man. I guess I kept a portion of myself in reserve and don't feel crushed. You seem like a good guy; that's good. I hope you find your sense of inner strength again. It's a wonderful thing to give your heart to someone, but only if the person is deserving. Nobody deserves that just because. Nobody! No woman (or man) should be put up on a pedestal.
You are special. We all are. Don't forget that. Next time around, remember there is nobody on this planet who is so amazing they deserve your heart just because; they should have to earn your heart just as you should earn theirs by how you treat each other.
Best of luck man.
I feel sorry for you man. I guess I kept a portion of myself in reserve and don't feel crushed. You seem like a good guy; that's good. I hope you find your sense of inner strength again. It's a wonderful thing to give your heart to someone, but only if the person is deserving. Nobody deserves that just because. Nobody! No woman (or man) should be put up on a pedestal.
You are special. We all are. Don't forget that. Next time around, remember there is nobody on this planet who is so amazing they deserve your heart just because; they should have to earn your heart just as you should earn theirs by how you treat each other.
Best of luck man.
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