need answers asap - am i or not?

Do people still go this forum? This is my first time posting anything...I probably won't get any replies. I'm an 18 year old girl and I think i have histrionic personality disorder- before i self diagnosed myself with HDP, i thought I had bipolar disorder, just a hypochondriac, and borderline personality disorder. I rememebered reading one of the posts by TheLonelyStranger about hyponchdria and HDP having some kind of correlation. I do so many quizzes (legit ones ) but have not yet seeked professional help for various reasons. All of these quizzes say i have a 'very high' chance of having a this. I've looked up all the symptoms and characteristics. I have most of it, but not all, one is that I'm not sexually active due to religious reasons...would i still be considered one? I also have a big fear of rejection so I often steer away from people who are attracted towards me (i guess you can put it down to my 'flirting'). Once they start coming closer, I start pushing away. I have never had a relationship longer than 2 weeks.
I have for a long time put the way I act down to being a teenager and being a 'typical' talkative girl. Is there such thing as mild HDP? I'm in awe of the information I've found so far on HDP, it seems like I'm reading an analysis of myself by strangers - one of the characteristics is that a HDP tries to relate to everything and everyone...right?
I'm often seen as eccentric, weird, abnormal...but often in a good way, so I think this encourages me to continue being like this.
Since I was 15, i was at the stage of 'finding myself', that is, according to my own definition, trying to figure out what I want to do in life, where I want to go, what I want, and how to get it. So far I have gotten nowhere...I am in university, only because my parents would have it no other way...if it was left up to me, I'd bum around for the rest of my life....not happy...but - I don't know...
This is 'normal' for most teens though right? I'm so lost.
Is it possible for some people with HDP to go through life without any treatments and live a productive and happy life?

I may need more information, but so far the case you made for being an HPD is a weak one. I don't think you are an HPD. You sound more like an Avoidant, which is sort of the opposite of an HPD, at least superficially.

As for not knowing what career, I suggest you take an occupational aptitude test. I think they work very well. You could find one in a library or online.

Before you choose your career, suggest you research it very thoroughly. Find out what peole do all day, what it pays, how good the job market is for it, what are the downsides, what people dislike about it, etc. You wouldn't want to spend a long time getting educated for a career and then quitting it because you don't like it or you can't make money at it.

Relax Kiddo! Personality disorders are not diagnosed on teenagers (except in extreme cases). What you are experiencing are the normal extremes and confussions we all experience as part of adolescence (if you look up the latin root of the word you will find out ir means to be in pain). So chill, if you think you need someone to talk to, look for a professional in your area or a counselor at school, but please, stop self diagnosing as this gets you nowhere (and if you actually had a personality disorder, you probably woudnt even realize it yourself)

thanks for the advice manahan, but im not an avoidant, i looked it up, i fit some of the criteria - i fit bits of everything but nahhh. ok, i'll take a look at that test thing, and other dude : im chilled right now lol. I guess in a way, i keep looking into these disorders cos i enjoy learning and trying to relate to it? i dunno...tired...lazy big time procrastinator. Thanks heaps all the people who responded, glad to know i'm 'normal'

manahan wrote:I may need more information, but so far the case you made for being an HPD is a weak one. I don't think you are an HPD. You sound more like an Avoidant, which is sort of the opposite of an HPD, at least superficially.

I agree that your case does not sound like a clea cut case of HPD. I'm sure it's possible to have a mild form. A lot of personality disorders have crossover symptoms, so you may want to consider other disorders/mental health issues. It's also possible to have more than one disorder or mental health issue, which complicates diagnosis. Don't be afraid to do research for yourself, because you know yourself than anyone, but I definitely would advise at least counseling if you can get it.

I have a friend who CLEARLY has HPD if not others and she has been very extreme in her behavior her whole life - she will do anything to be the center of attention, even if it means doing or saying stupid or humiliating things, plus lots of other HPD traits. She is constantly doing highly impulsive things with negative consequences and can't seem to learn from her constant mistakes. You don't sound quite that extreme in your behavior, but you didn't list many specific details (and I've taken those tests, they usually tell me I have at least 4 PDs!) Professionals are obviously qualified to diagnose and I am not and I would recommend talking to someone to identify exactly what you are feeling.

The fear of rejection does sound avoidant to me (being one myself), but that is only one of many traits - as is pushing people away when they start getting close.