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Re: More than 'just' HPD?

Postby connfused and hurt 2 » Mon Dec 06, 2010 12:56 pm

All good things Alice....

Maybe the real you!
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Re: More than 'just' HPD?

Postby AliceWonders » Mon Dec 06, 2010 2:29 pm

I know I just sent this in a PM, but I think it's very relevant as well as an acurate description to what I feel is happening inside me:

Right now I' m just listing words that describe the piece of me, not me as a whole. I don't really have a 'whole' you see. There's always someone driving the car, and I'm just in the passenger side for the most part. We're all in there (should really be more of a van to fit us in there space wise- lol) but we're all there, the pieces and they all take turns manning the course of our life. It changes the speed of the vehicles progress, we vary off the plotted path into side roads and dead ends from time to time. Sometimes we are lost in a thick fog as we try to find our way through the twists and turns of the ever changing road ahead- but we're all here; we all take turns, each one serves a particular purpose through the course, and while some I definitely don't like (FD for example) there's a reason for their presence and once I find that reason, and come to terms with it- perhaps I won't need so many drivers and I can steer MYSELF in the right direction?


Not sure how others feel about this with their disociative states, but basically I'd just like to find out who I am and be the one in control of the car and essentially my life!
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Re: More than 'just' HPD?

Postby connfused and hurt 2 » Mon Dec 06, 2010 2:39 pm

Hey Baby steps...but you are getting there!

Well, maybe the real you is starting to come out? That's a good thing. You are working on it.

Not going to happen in a day, but given how far you have come, and recognizing it all...shows you have come, so far already...baby steps.

You don't see it, but I do. I am sure others do, as well.

It shows Alice.....one step at a time. You are over 1/2 way there. You recognize it, and your doing something about it. How do you feel about that, yourself?

Also, good to see you are applying for work. Real important. Builds self worth and self esteem. Adds purpose in life. Plus pays the rent! lol

Anyway....List the positive of all this "awakening" so far, ok? No negatives. Just the positives!!! it will all come together for you, and yes, you will be driving the car. Takes time and you are doing great.

Each positive on that list, is a great gift, you gave yourself for X-mas....List the positives!!
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Re: More than 'just' HPD?

Postby AliceWonders » Mon Dec 06, 2010 4:11 pm

In working intensly on my STIPO this morning, I came across a series of questions that were difficult for me to answer concerning relationships outside my family:

Who is the most important person in your present life, excluding people from the family you grew up in, and your children (and your therapist).

Tell me about ___, what ____ like as a person? Let’s say that you wanted me to get to know ____ as quickly as possible, in just a few minutes – how would you describe ____ to me so that I get a live and full of picture of the kind of person ____ is?

“You described ____ as “___”; can you describe for me how ______ is like “_____”; if it would help, perhaps you provide an example or a story that illustrates this quality.”

For each of the qualities identified in question #22 ask:

“Why do you think that ____ is _____; what’s your theory about why ___ is like that?

“How did ___ come to be someone who is ______?”

(If respondent answers with a literal or reductionistic response, e.g., “I don’t know, I guess because ____’s father is like that,”, then ask: “Well I wonder how it is that _____ became like ____’s father; how did that quality become part of _____?”)


I have no one to put here! I don;'t have anyone in my life outside of my family (children, parents, my X's) so shouls I just skip this and take the '0' marks????
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Re: More than 'just' HPD?

Postby connfused and hurt 2 » Mon Dec 06, 2010 4:16 pm

You made friends here.

Think of one of them.
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