SEX STARVED!

Hi Alice:
hmmm....my few cents worth is that boredom with ones self and ones life is strongly related to any addiction including sex. I was invited by a friend to fool around on Windows live recently, I signed up, had a look, and was shocked at how many people on there for cyber sex indicated "boredom" (i.e. Current status - "completely booooored, who wants a f*ck?). The answer then is perhaps to not let boredom set in. Sports in particular, and other activities (music, painting, reading, etc...) are constructive sublimations of sexual energy, and shall in addtion help you feel much better about yourself. IMO, once that happens sex shall automatically be put back into perspective rather than having an all important "must have it now" importance which it seems to have had when you wrote your original posts.

Good luck,
Musician

I'm happy to report that I didn't give in to my SEXUAL CRAVING and actually have sex with another person- YEAH ME!!!!

What I found was that by using some of the groups and forums on my sex/dating sites and purging my own thoughts, feelings, cravings and lustful desires onto the boards was a great way to stimulate the excitement enough to be able to take care of it on my own with masturbation and loads of chocolate. I set out to meet men, souly online and by having them recieve my sexual propsals and agreeing to meet- it gave me the validation I needed (just knowing I COULD) and by purging my thoughts and relieving my own sexual stresses- I acheived some kind of physical satisfaction there too. Plus+ after years of trying, I finally learned how to make myself squirt on my own I thought that was pretty darn cool

The biggest thing about when I crave sex though has got to be the oral stimmulous. I'm not talking about kissing, I don't kiss the swing with- but I do have an intense need for oral sex. Not getting it- GIVING IT!
I can honestly spend 45 minutes EASY on a man (if he's able to last that long) Like the second time I slept with my XBF's best friend, I had just had a huge fight w the X and I spent almost 2 HOURS on his friend- just oral sex, nothing else. And I only allowed him to release because it was so late (almost 5am) other wise I'd have still kept going.

I've tried doing the oral thing on some of my toys (when I had myown website I used to shoot videos and work as cam girl- so I have a massive arsinal of sex toys) but it's just NOT the same. I enjoy the flavors of a man and the different texture and sensation each one has. They're all different and I just can't get that with a toy.

So yeah, while I'm perfectly capable of taking care of some of those sexual desires on my own- what do you recomend for a HUGE oral fixation of sexual nature?

Chanelling my sexual energy into something else doesn't work! When I'm in that kinda mood everything tickels and tingles and even walking is difficult. I have a piercing that makes walking VERY stimulating and ergo it's difficult not to get excited. I can't even focus on anything else until I masturbate.
Clitoral stimulation and orgasms produced by that method wheren't enough at the time.
What I crave is a full body orgasm produced by vaginal orgasms, or squirting by gspot stimulation.

I dunno? Sometimes I just can't stop the way that heat comes over me and until I find some kind of release- I just can't DO anythingt else.

Thanks for the ideas though. Definitely something to keep my mind off sex between these outbursts

if your getting your rocks off giveing guys oral. It proves its not a one sided thing, you like to give as well as recieve. If your not hurting anyone an you dont get hangups , its cool with me

This is really interesting. I'm sorry you are having so much difficulty.

Are you a diagnosed HPD? I am dealing with a lot of issues right now (I'm not an HPD, but I'm pretty sure my g/f is-- and I know it seems presumptuous to say that, but for now just trust me) and, if anything, I seem more obsessive/codependent in the whole deal. We broke up quite a few times after she was caught cheating, etc., finally she even tried feigning therapy but after several months of separation she had to come back to me and so on (same story, I know, I know) but actually she seems much better this time around and has even allowed me to say my piece to her therapist and went once to a counselor of my own.

I was hurt so badly that even when nothing's going on I suspect something; it's an awful feeling, because I love her very much and (at least now) she SEEMS to have a genuine desire to work through these issues. But our thought-styles are different, I want the proof and she wants intuition-- plus there's a lot of stuff that doesn't even deal with the hypersexuality at all. Ever had an argument that never ended even after you agreed with them 20 minutes before?

But listen-- I love her very much, and I really do care about her, and she says the same for me. I realize the dangers quite well, having suffered because of them. But right now there aren't many people I can talk to, and I wouldn't mind talking to some real HPDs, or people who live with them, or (one can hope) someone qualified, or at least some people who are more in the business of being understanding/altrustic about the matter and less about being bitter (albeit rightfully so).