Authenticity of Self

by **mistaben** » Sat Nov 20, 2010 10:27 pm

wisdom wrote:Dr Ok,

First off, thanks very much for posting here. Totally understand you are constraint bound from demonstrating your techniques here with live case studies. However totally appreciate you mingling in here with so many HPD sufferers to hear them first hand, and to offer HPDers and Non’s alike such great access to your thinking and writings.

I have to be honest; I’m not following what you posted clearly.

Wisdom spoke it best so I figured I just repost what he said.

Also, I just wanted to say thanks for posting an explanation - I will take the time to read over this more carefully later.

If you decide to re-explain your post, A) consider posting a new post (but still in this thread) B) just compare one disorder at a time in each paragraph. your confusing me by comparing the two disorders. I don't have a solid understanding of either disorder to make comparisons and analogys between them. Also, I'm not very familiar with all this terminology, for example, I'm still learning exactly what the words "sense of self" mean.

Again, I just wanted to post a quick reply to say thankyou, I appreciate you taking the time to explain the theory.

One question if I can ask it, why is it that when I write emails with romantic interests the only time they ever read them as being completely normal is when I blow up and get all emotional, then they sound "normal" to other person. The rest of the time they are misinterpreted as insults or just "wierd wierd" abnormal comments given the context.

It's always like the comments have to be emotionally reframed and explained to be understood, which by email gets even more complex trying to explain an explanation and so forth.

Is that an HPD and a sense-of-self thing, or a my choice of screwy-romantic-interests thing?

by **mistaben** » Sun Nov 21, 2010 12:59 am

Ok, so I reread most of the first part of your article.

Now what your saying is because I believe that the problem is my fault I start to negatively internalize a sense of responsibility for the issue. Because I believe it to be my fault I internalize it to be. And then from there I can't take responsibility for my behavior patterns because I am using them to garner the attention I want - effectively I don't even see how my behavior patterns are affecting me?

As this goes on developing, do I eventually lose the ability to empathize with people because of the negative sense of responsibility associated? or how does that happen? or is that normal when people are angered?

I feel like everynow and then I get a grasp of it and how it was suppose to have worked when I look at my present/current romantic interest but then I lose it again.

by **goodbyenormajean** » Mon Nov 22, 2010 4:56 am

Hi. I'm new here but I have been reading the forum for a few months since I found out I have HPD. I figured I would introduce myself by commenting on some of the posts I've been reading on here. I can see that a lot of people are confused by Dr. Bochner's article on the Histrionic but I would like to say that his article helped me to realize the why where only online I have been able to see the what's so far. I can only remember a few fights that my parents had and in reading his article some memories came back of a scared and upset little girl that just wanted the fighting to stop. It's hard to believe what the mind is capable of shutting out. While I have many unanswered questions at this time, here with this article, stirs the beginnings. The jacked Fruedian stage of my life. The foundation from which all began. I now have the why and the what. What's left is When Where Who and How?

Jean

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