Sexually aggressive women...

What is the deal with the HPD-type women going apesh-t when they are denied sex very early in the dating process, and why do most of them claim to "think like men"? What is the purpose of this?

Sumner wrote:What is the deal with the HPD-type women going apesh-t when they are denied sex very early in the dating process, and why do most of them claim to "think like men"? What is the purpose of this?

Probably because they think that if they are sexually aggressive then the man will like them even more thus giving them more attention and validation. They seem to have an imbalanced perspective towards healthy relationships and will do practically anything to edge out other women who won't give it up so easily in order to be more desirable in the eyes of men. It's also symptomatic of a larger issue at play: insecurity.

I found my ex was pretty much up for anything.

I think they try to find out your fantasies and fulfill them in the hope of pleasing you - attention for them etc.

Mine wanted to f... on our third date in her car. When I try and I couldn't because I barely know her she masturbated until orgasm. She was also so passionate that sometimes my earlobes hurt when she has bitten them and my back hurt from her scratching.

These woman lure you in with sex. Mine did and they know how to do this well. Lot's of practice! lol

Like someone said, they think like a man. Better still, they know how a man thinks and take full advantage of it. Seems that is why people on here suffer from the addiction of them and can't get over them. It was all fake though and used to munipulate us. They gave us, what we wanted.

What is the deal with the HPD-type women going apesh-t when they are denied sex very early in the dating process

I'm so guilty of that. I act like I'm heartbroken if he seems reluctant. haha.. But do I seriously want to do it? Hell no! I actually respect him more if he's not too eager too soon.

I know it's what men want, so I play along. It gives me sick satisfaction to know he wants me in that way and I have power over him. I take pleasure in teasing/torturing him. haha.. But there's always a reason as to why I want him oh so bad, but it can't happen. I've only actually gotten anywhere (never all the way) with 1 person and even that after half a year of messing with the poor guy. He persevered, so he got rewarded, but even then it didn't mean much.

So yeah, I'm insecure, paranoid, selfish, whatever else that'd describe how awesome I am.

yumi wrote:

I know it's what men want, so I play along. It gives me sick satisfaction to know he wants me in that way and I have power over him. I take pleasure in teasing/torturing him. haha.. But there's always a reason as to why I want him oh so bad, but it can't happen.

Hi Yumi:
Love that response. I had no problems getting my X in to bed btw, but we did see each other at the beach for about a month before hand, and where we would just hold hands. I remember one day i tried just to kiss her during one of those walks, and she coyly pulled back with a "sorry i have a boyfriend". I think it was all part of the game. She was the one to invite me to her appartment one evening a couple days later, and once there she knew exactly what she wanted and just took it from me. I did not have to do a thing, she helped herself like a little kid in a free sweet shop. I confess, I just loved it, and it excited me even more. I was like "help yourself, don't mind me". I suppose then that every case then is different. However, I have come up against what you describe in a separate situation, and in a knut shell you cover what i (on the receiving end...) believe happened. Its good to be warned from a self confessed HP.

Thanks Musician

Musician924 wrote:
I had no problems getting my X in to bed btw, but we did see each other at the beach for about a month before hand, and where we would just hold hands. I remember one day i tried just to kiss her during one of those walks, and she coyly pulled back with a "sorry i have a boyfriend". I think it was all part of the game.

Of course it's part of the game. 'sorry i have a boyfriend' haha.. I could use that one. I mainly play the clueless, oh so innocent, terrified little girl card. Honestly, seeing each other for about a month and just holding hands - I find that so sweet! I have huge respect for men who can control themselves. I have considered doing what she did to you inviting you over... But it never seemed worth it to take the playing that far.

I think it was pure desire Yumi. She knew what she wanted when she invited me over, she was 24 and full of hormones, and I was 37, experienced. The difficult part was, that I think until then either could have backed out easily, we were just friends enjoying spending time together. It was just raw sex the first time it happened, but after that we started to make love, it was very warm, and we became attached. I think the love making led us to fall in love, but she in her way, and I in mine. We were both desperate for affection for different reasons. Sometimes I think it was a very sad relationship, but at the same time it was such a major milestone in my life. I think part of my own issues however, and no doubt why I originally came here, was admitting to myself that i did fall in love. I don't easily, and yet i decided to abandon myself to the relationship so fast, too fast, and I could not accept my own ruthlessness. I still miss her as a friend, and the cuddles, and despite the problems we were always laughing like two best friends. I am sure we shall get along again one day, but its taken me years of introspection and analysing to feel that way. sofrance helped wonderfully earlier in the year, she told me things i wish my X had told me. At least now i understand what it is like to be on her (your...) side of the fence.

Musician

We were both desperate for affection for different reasons. Sometimes I think it was a very sad relationship

Wow. Thanks for getting me incredibly sad too...

Do you think you might establish contact with her again sometime in the future? Just to be friends? Would you go back just for the sex?