The effect of No Contact, I Want Attention !!

Unfortunately I got involved with an HPD who I work with.

We split, it was very upsetting. After trying to behave like an adult with her and this failing, we agreed we would only have contact at work. To translate this she expected me to come around and see her all the time.

I went no contact - my choice. In less than 5 days of this, I got an email saying why was I avoiding her, how I was bipolar, how things were great that we had no contact.

I keep up no contact she comes to my shared office 3 times in one day and finally then starts talking to me. I also get a work related email containing lots of personal questions which I ignore.

Today she is in my office again talking to co-workers which she could do anywhere.

Then an email to my boss today saying how her and I need to work on something together.

I told my boss about her a while ago and we operate a very simple system that he deals with her, asks for what he needs and I have no contact with her so this is what I will do for this.

It just never ceases to amaze me what she is like. How I want no contact (her words) lasts a week or so then she tries to instigate contact.

Obviously the past just didnt happen. Just selective memory.

Get another job. I'm not joking.

Oh yeah! Same experience here.
A few days ago, we had a final split that could not have been more final. Whereupon I received a text message from her saying "Goodbye. I will always love you. Have a good life." Etc. Two days of NC later, = yesterday, I get a text message "So are you driving me to the dentist?"
I have read about this in so many other postings too. HPDs really seem to think that words have no meaning at all except to express what they feel in a particular moment. If they no longer feel it, then they see no need even to refer to those words again!
Crazymaking. No other word for it.

HPD live in opposite world. Push them away, they come closer. Pull them closer, they push you away.

I agree with Asphyx

uncleabe, compton - According to the definition given by Sofrance in another post, these girls are stalkers, HPD style stalkers

Document all their attempts to contact you, threaten them you would go to the police and then report them to the police and get a restraining order

Isn't this what you would do Sofrance?

LOL...

Searchfortruth you are obviously craving my attention and want to get some kind of a rise out of me. Really, this is much too obvious though.

craving my attention

lol... sorry.. you are not worth it

You can have your bunch of nons fawn over you and hold onto every word you parrot out from your ever-rewinding tape everytime you post, the same Oh I am HPD and I hurt people and I don't know and its their fault they love me or HPDs make the world exciting and provide a window to something you can only dream cr*p.

want to get some kind of a rise out of me

lol.. I am a P/N. I enjoy a rise out of everyone I think is stupid (and that is pretty much everyone).

Really, this is much too obvious though

Really? Do you still go to play-school? Everyone on this forum gets that. You don't need to state that Ms.Obvious.


If you really want to post, stay on topic about what uncleabe and compton have posted about their NC and the stalking done by their HPDs. Let us hear what you have to say about stalking now. Or else you are pretty much a hypocrite, and don't blame it on your HPD condition and start a drama again.

My job is secure, she cant trash me to anyone.

Her contract runs out early next year on her job so she HAS to leave.

In her mind she wants to move to a warm and sunny place by the sea e.g. Barcelona. Then she will meet the man of her dreams, have a family, la la la..............

I am not concerned, she doesnt know where I live and she it too lazy to be a stalker even if that fitted into the personality type which it doesnt.

Her primary motivation is control, the attempt to control me and make me her attentive lap dog.

I have already said all I have to say about stalking. If you look back at "a question for nons" I actually answer a question directly from you and set out my views on stalking. I see no need to go over it again.

I have no wish to bore you with my "parroted" out views on my ever-rewinding tape of spiel. Perhaps if you find me so obvious and repetitive you had better save your time and not post to me and not ask me questions.