Another case of HPD?

So even if she perpetually remains under the influence of her parents - and there's virtually no relationship - you'll still be waiting around for things to get better? If this did happen, I think you'd instead realise that moving away from her and her life would be the better option dude. We only get one shot at life, so it's best not to waste any time with people who offer us nothing but sadness and pain.

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Well, I wish you the best of luck my friend. You know yourself better than anyone, and i trust your decision. i will always be here if you need to talk about anything.

Take care,
Kevin

Thank you for your support, Kevin. I think time will tell if my decision is right.

Dude, don't do it. In reading your posts you mention nothing of her showing any remorse for cheating on you early in the relationship. She didn't even want to admit it. This is not grown up behavior. Histrionic or not this is not acceptable behavior. Chatting with other dudes on MSN? What? YOU DESERVE BETTER MY FRIEND! You will have a hard time trusting her and will always be on edge over her every move. It's no way to live. Been there.

Her parents are probably just upset because they were glad to have her out of the house and off their hands. She sounds like a spoiled brat.

Before you make a decision take some distance. Find yourself. You can be there for your daughter and if the relationship with the girlfriend is going to work out it can wait. It's not a NOW or never situation. Don't feel rushed to make a decision. If she can't wait 6 months or a year for you without jumping in with some other man, then you have your answer.

Highly recommend the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy".

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If it's an abusive family than your girlfriend is bound to them with bonds stronger than any steel. One thing I'm learning is that everyone has to break their own emotional bondage. If you go swooping in to rescue her out of that mess you will just get caught in the web (as you have already found). I assume you are a MAN, so stop living by everyone else's rules (your gf's and her parents).

Make your own rules. What kind of life do you want? Find a place to live where YOU want to live. Arrange for visits with your daughter on YOUR terms. No one can deny you that right. You are her father. Agree with your ex to stay separated for a period of time (6 months at the least). Make your life the way you want it. Develop your interest and hobbies. Exercise. If your girlfriend finds what you are doing more attractive than her present circumstances she will break free and come to you. If she is not capable of doing this or it must be on her terms or her parents terms than she probably isn't the kind of girl you want a long term supportive relationship with.

Be the man. Set the tone. Take the lead. You know what you got to do. Everyone hear understands it is VERY HARD, but you can do it. Good luck!

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