NO CONTACT!!!! (Summation)

Hi all, I was the original poster for the thread "NO CONTACT!!!!". It was very educational for everyone at first but has degenerated into a brawl between HPD and Codependance. I could explain that more, but I think I'll just summate it instead.

The latter parts of that thread and the banter between Sofrance and NewtoHPD illustrate the problem we all have(thank to the other posters also, I don't mean to leave you out).

HPD's and their Non HPD partners are drawn to eachother. They really have compatable deficiencies in their personalities that tend to draw them together. They fill eachothers voids.... Sofrance and NewtoHPD should probably sleep together, the sex would be awesome for you two.

What that means for me is that Codependancy is my "NORNAL"... and HPD is my HPD's "NORMAL"(if that makes sense) Our normals, be them somewhat abnormal, are normal to us..... We love eachother. We have recently gone through another cycle of euphoria and despare. The decision now is, do I want to change my "NORMAL" to be abnormal and decide that a boring healthy relationship is GOOD.

I read someplace(I need to find it agian for everyone) that every great artist, philosopher, scientist, inventor or leader is great in part becasue they live their life in and elevated state of being, which is often times brought on by experincing exactly the lowest lows and the highest highs we are all going through with our PD partners. We all tend to find people with complimentory(polar opposite) disorders. We are drawn to eachother, feed off eachother, make eachother stronger, think harder and experience our feelings more deeply. It's like war, you never know what you are capable of until you are pushed to the edge. All this makes a certain amount of sense to me becauce of the tremendous amount of success I have achieved in my life. I believe in part that my living life to the fullest, taking risks, realing in disaster and turning it into great success is due in large part to the women in my life like Sofrance pushing me to the edge.....

Rockstar

Hi,
I don´t know if I´m in the rigth blog (and please excuse my bad English; but it´s not my native laguage). But I´ve been reading and feel soooo enlightened!!
I do not have a relationship with an HP, but my boyfriend had a daughter with one. The whole story is made of one bad decision after antoher. Begining with a one nigth stand, a 15 day "relationship", surprise I´m pregnant and 2 years later here we are...Dealing with what I considered an incredibly confused person which now I understand to fit into an incredible personality disorder.
I have an e-mail that she sent me showing all the common traits you mentioned. All 7!!!
My problem is: The only way to avoid contact with this person is not having a realtionship with the little girl (which my boyfriend obviously will not agree to). Las night she was´t home when we were supposed to drop off the baby. Upset by this, my boyfriend left and sent an sms saying that she could pick up the baby whenever she was done playing around. She called her family and the cops on us acusing us of kidnap, and let me tell you... living in a third world country, this ended up in a embarassing street fight!!
I felt so bad about all this. I still have to show my face to the neighbors, and eventually, this lady will want to "get away" from her little girl and will call again. I´ts not the baby´s fault; and I am certain that this is what she uses to manipulate us. But we´re talking about a child here.
I can´t seem to come up with a smart idea that could turn into a win-win situation. Specially considering that the legal system here is centuries behind protecting little kids from "disoriented" mothers.
Any ideas?