jmac wrote:And whilst we are not professionals, in a way, we are even more in that we were the ones who witnessed their covert abuse behind closed doors. We saw it, we felt it, and we also have read the criteria the professionals have written to describe these disordered individuals.
Furthermore, if the hpd was in front of a trained professional, all they would do...nine times out of ten...is "hide" their true self. Rarely do the professionals get to see their true side, which is why so many recommend we tape record certain conversations with them for divorce court and so that they don't deny what they said and how they said it.
Amen to that jmac! I knew for years in my deep subconscious that my hpd husband was 'different'. Several years ago I remember thinking - now what emotional support has he ever provided me, and realising that everything in his life was all about him. Whenever he did a good deed it was out of self-interest for himself - he wanted to feel good about himself, or he wanted others to look appreciatively at him.
Finding out about cluster B's was such a revelation and my HPD husband classically exhibits all of those behaviours. I now know that there is no way I can ever have a future with him, and that he will never be the partner I need in my life. He will never ever be happy with himself, and his constant search for happiness, excitement - whatever - is like pouring water through a seive.
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