MY HPD is seeking help, any hope?

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"I came across HPD and diagnosed my girlfriend".

Absoulte genius. Sums ups everything that is wrong with this forum.

What other magical qualities do you have? Can you diagnose cancer? diabetes? Lets get rid of doctors, psychiatrists and psychologist and we can just "come across" illnesses and disorders and apply them to the world around us in a haphazard way. Absolutely brilliant.

Perhaps she just likes cheating and a drink. THIS DOES NOT MEAN SHE HAS A PERSONALITY DISORDER AND YOU ARE NOT IN A POSITION TO DIAGNOSE HER.

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Even if you are a med student you are not a psychologist. The two are completely separate. As a med student you should probably know that. I am a graduate psychologist. This does not mean I can diagnose medical conditions.

I have never come a supposedly educated medical student who spelt highlight as "hi light". Whoever is educated you, they are ripping you off.

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Cheating on someone is not a symptom of HPD. HPDs do not not actually have much interest in cheating physically. That is not what the disorder is about in the slightest.

I would suggest that even if she does have HPD the cheating is nothing to do with it so therapy for that would not help. If she has cheated on you 3 times in 3 months and told you each time I would suggest she does not like you very much and does not have any respect for you.

The fact that she is still your girlfriend after cheating on you 3 times suggests you have no respect for yourself either. Perhaps you are the one that needs therapy.

You are absolutely right you should not have said you diagnosed her if you did not mean diagnosed. Seems rather a dangerous habit for a medical student to confuse when and where the word "diagnose" should be used.

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I think you mistook this forum for the "my girlfriend cheats on me and I want to justify this by dreaming up a personality disorder for her and pretending I am victim and having a little moan" forum.

concernedperson wrote:Listen man, I don't have time for this. Thanks for hi-jacking the thread. Have a nice life.

sofrance is right, though. as self-respect is usually overrated, this is not the case. I'd recommend getting in touch with her therapist to get the idea about what to do (basically, if you're incapable of being just a good friend, controlling all your emotions near her, cease all contact). If you're a masochist, go on with the relationship.

Also try to lurk some more around the forums before posting, there are actually a lot of info with less hate towards hpd/"victims" and more to the subject.

no, I think (SO......france1) is just a blast from the past (ex) trying to do what hpds do, stir $#%^ up and gaslight everyone.......to make you feel like you are the one with the pd! What makes a person pick a name like SO...france other than a person trying to look like they are SO.....france! Listen guys, these people are just like that car you hear one of your buddies talk about messed up wires and just won't run right so you GET RID OF THEM AND STOP WONDERING ABOUT WHY IT DOESN'T WORK RIGHT AND BUY ANOTHER....YOU GOT PLAYED SO MOVE ON!!! They have and it is because there wasn't anything there of real value. I have been where you are, been were your going and at where you want to be. Here is some stuff that helped me when you encounter people like sofrance or any other pd......ed person:

Some books that are a must read:

1. No more mr. nice guy, by robert glover

2. The enabler, by angelyn miller (BIG TIME READ FOR A PERSON THAT DATED A HPD...LET EM FALL AND WHO CARES WHAT HAPPENES TO THEM..)

3. The Secret, by rhonda byrne (You see the why behind why you can't let go....cause you're thinking about them, what you think about, you give energy to wether it is negative or positive)