Not sure what to do for the best!

takenomorecrap How did you know 'Anna' is called 'Anna'? You sound crazy enough to be 'Anna' herself! You are scary.

HPDhelp wrote:So why did she pick me up in the first place? and I mean it took her 3 -4 weeks of constant flirting etc before I cracked. I would love you to read her side of the story, just as long as it was the true version and not her deluded version.
The one thing that has come out of this, as I have said a few times is I realise just how much I do love my wife and how stupid I have been to get involved with a lunatic. How you can think I am a manipulator when I have just had a relationship with a suspected HPD is beyond me. I have checked out your other posts takenomorecrap, and with respect, you seem rather disturbed yourself. Thanks for your advice anyway. My wife, and I, are both very lucky to have one another- thanks.

You realize how much you LOVE YOUR WIFE yet you're here posting about someone you were INVOLVED WITH BEHIND YOUR WIFE'S BACK, asking for advise on how to help that person? Puhlease.

Yes, I do see you as a manipulator. Married people have NO BUSINESS getting involved, or being "in a relationship" (as you put it) with someone outside of their marriage. This should be common sense.

As for you wife being very LUCKY to have you? I can't see how. If she does, it's only because she has no clue what you've been up to and you are a master of deception and manipulation. Kind of like the way you admittedly manipulated Anna (um yeah, I call her that because that's part of the USERNAME she's used here. It isn't rocket science LOL) into believing you would "leave your wife for her" but only because you wanted to get a rise out of her, because of course you had NO intention of leaving your wife.

Obviously you take NO responsiblity for the mess you've created.

You had no right to go outside of your marriage like you did. A real man doesn't betray his marriage and wife like you have done.

And here you are, supposedly now so happily married, but still adding to the drama. Your vindictiveness and narcissism are very apparent, in all that you've written here.

Seriously - seek professional help.

I don't believe this is what this forun is about. We all make decisions in our lives that maybe not for the best. We learn from our mistakes and move on to live life, the way it is meant to be lived. The HPD forum is about healing and discussion and not tearing each other apart . It is about learning of the behavior and trying to understand it.

This thread is wrong. It is about a man that made the wrong choice in life's journey. We all make mistakes and learned from it. Sometimes life can get mundane, and we seek relief and not always make the best choices. It is what we learn from this and how we move forward. It is a choice.

It is not good to cheat on anyone, but we all make mistakes and then treasure what is most important to us. It is life.

Let it go and treasure what you have. This thread will turn out very sad otherwise.

C&H

HPDhelp wrote:Hi Musician, thats exactly what I want, infact it's all I want from her, a profound, sincere, APOLOGY!
The lack of empathy is the hardest thing to come to terms with, as you say, it goes against everything I have been brought up to 'not do' - think of others before yourself, don't hurt people etc etc. and is just so un-natural and unexpected.

Awww. Does your WIFE get an apology? Were you "thinking of others (read: your wife) before yourself" when you were having a "relationship" outside of your marriage? Don't you think your wife would be very "hurt" if she knew what was going on? I'm sure SHE would find it very "unnatural and unexpected" to learn that her husband was having a 6 month "relationship" behind her back. Funny that you expect from others what you clearly cannot deliver yourself. What a double-standard.

confused and hurt wrote:I don't believe this is what this forun is about. We all make decisions in our lives that maybe not for the best. We learn from our mistakes and move on to live life, the way it is meant to be lived. The HPD forum is about healing and discussion and not tearing each other apart . It is about learning of the behavior and trying to understand it.

This thread is wrong. It is about a man that made the wrong choice in life's journey. We all make mistakes and learned from it. Sometimes life can get mundane, and we seek relief and not always make the best choices. It is what we learn from this and how we move forward. It is a choice.

It is not good to cheat on anyone, but we all make mistakes and then treasure what is most important to us. It is life.

Let it go and treasure what you have. This thread will turn out very sad otherwise.

C&H

Hello C&H,
You are right about this thread. It is going to turn out sad. I try to Warn members, then I do warn members and they have to be responsible for what they post.
Thank you for trying to help.
peace,
red

This is nuts! Who the hell are you ?- other than Anna herself? I bear no grudges, no animosity, no hatred, well no nothing really, I am numb to any feelings towards you/her, totally wasted and pointless. I have tried to be 'grown up' about the whole thing, but it aint going to happen is it? (Musician, you are probably laughing your socks off now if U are following this!) NewtoHDP help, mate, I really need one of your brilliant summaries of the situation! Everyone, this has become so silly it's just, well so silly! I think Anna is trying to get one up on me, but as I have said from the start Anna - grow up! Remember this is NOT a personal forum! (I know I am 50% to blame but what can you do?) Strange that 'takenomorecrap' started posting a few hours after 'annavs-1' isn't it? One and the same maybe?? I am tired of this, I have tried to help, my intensions have always been good, my methods possibly clumsy. What can you do? I will sleep tight tonight and have deep meaningful sex with my wife actually before we sleep. That will always be the thing, HPD's have no concept of 'meaningful' or 'deep' or any other mature emotional concepts. So sad.