techniques manipulators use etc here
charm, flattery , to lower defenses
relational aggression
covert aggression
villifying the victim
emotional blackmail
playing the victim
abuse of restraining orders
blatant lying
what helps us
red flags
self esteem from a non egotistical but healthy function
confidence in social skills, - a $5 book?
assertiveness
"the old saying- you cant cheat an honest man"
stop putting our happiness in others hands,
alot of this stuff is on wikipedia, free to learn, to foster good relationships and grow healthy in a social way
good luck
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation
and here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relational_aggression
the page about histrionics and it having all the other stuff is here
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic ... y_disorder