Does my male coworker have HPD?

I have a male coworker whose personality is very different from anybody else's where I work. He is an immigrant from a Chinese-speaking country (as most of the workers there are), and I say this because I know that China is considered an introverted country, and that most East Asian cultures consider it to be a virtue to be quiet. Anyway, this guy is married, and drives his SUV to work everyday. He has a low-pay, unskilled labour job. I don't know if he has any qualifications. He has a son, apparently, who is about 25; himself, about 50. He is the loudest person there, and when he eats lunch, he talks with his mouth full, and food bits fly out a little bit sometimes. He is quite the comedian, though much of his humour is mocking other people's vocalizations (and loudly!). I don't think it's because he's going deaf. He doesn't always speak loudly; sometimes I've heard him speak quite softly. If he sees another worker doing a job slightly incorrectly or more slowly than he would be doing it, he yells at them so loudly that the whole place can hear, and the tone in his voice shows more annoyance than what would ordinarily be expected. It's like he has a low opinion of the competence of most of the other workers. If you try to talk back to him in a normal voice, he'll just yell louder than you to shut you up, so you can't even speak because he's drowning you out. One time, the most competent worker there told him to keep the two types of product seperate (not to mix them), and he gave the guy the middle finger! And this worker asked him in a polite, non-loud volume. He also has given the middle finger to one of the supervisors and has said, "You're full of sh__" to the same supervisor, and on another day "F___ you" twice to the supervisor that is even higher up than the other supervisor. This incident was when the higher-up supervisor saw him take out a rack out of the freezer he had previously asked him not to, and the HPD(?) guy immediately started shouting in response with that "almost-going-to-cry" tone to defend himself.


One time he inserted himself into an argument between a coworker (same level as him) and the lower-down supervisor; the HPD guy asked me to leave my position at a machine to help him lift a tray. Me and the supervisor were very busy at the machine, and we did not want to get behind, so the supervisor asked the coworker to help the BPD guy. The coworker incorrectly assumed that the only reason the supervisor asked her was because he was showing favortism towards me. So she refuses to do the job, even though there are about 7 people doing the exact same job as her at the table she was at (so there certainly were enough people there at her table and it wouldn't have been as much a loss in productivity if she would have just helped lift the tray for ten seconds). Anyway, the supervisor asks her multiple times, and she refuses each time, so the supervisor says, "Go home" to her, and she gets really mad and starts yelling at the supervisor. Then the HPD guy walks over to the supervisor and says, "You can't do that!" very loudly while pointing his finger aggressively at him. He then starts trying to argue with the supervisor. He said, "I asked her, so why doesn't she come and not her?" or something like that.

On another occassion, the lower-end supervisor accidentally drove into a stack of boxes on a pallet and moved them out of place, and I'm not sure who started it (maybe the supervisor asked him to move them but HPD guy didn't?), but then the lower-end supervisor is now no longer seated in his forklift but pushing the HPD guy and the HPD guy is punching with closed fists into his stomach area. Maybe both of them were; it all happened so fast and I don't remember much. But there was shouting going on. During the lunchtime that happened after that (this lower-end supervisor never eats lunch with us; I think he likes to go to fast food restaurants in his car) I could hear the HPD guy complaining about the supervisor to the other people seated at his lunch table.

I used to think maybe he had Narcisistic Personality Disorder, but I don't think so since one of the characteristics of NPD is reacting very angrily towards criticism, and I have myself made fun of his speech and I've seen the supervisor make fun of his speech, and I've said, "You sound like you have a bunch of cotton balls in your mouth" and I've said to him, "Don't talk to me like that. You are very rude. It's very unprofessional" and he just stared back at me expressionless, like not in an intimidating manner or angrily or in a dismissive manner; just like he had nothing to say or was just neutral. Very weird! He hasn't talked back or gotten angry or started to cry or argue when the previous things were done, and I would have expected him to react very strongly to being made fun of. But sometimes he seems to enjoy being mocked!

I've thought about Antisocial Personality Disorder or Sociopathy or Psychopathy, but he has a kid and has had a wife for a long time I think (I know Sam Vaknin has had the same wife for about ten years, but I don't think he has any kids he takes care of. Maybe I'm wrong about that. I don't know. But I do know that the documentary I watched about him said he was unusual for psychopaths since he has been with his wife for so long).

" They reproduce as often as possible and waste little energy in worrying about the welfare of their offspring. In this way, they propagate their genes with little or no personal investment.
For male psychopaths, the most effective way to have lots of children is to mate with--and quickly abandon--a large number of women...In eight cases that I know about, he moved in with such women, and as soon as they became pregnant he left them." from www.ptypes.com/antisocialpd.html

One time the very competent coworker asked him if he was going to get his wife flowers for Valentine's Day, and the HPD guy responded, "I never get my wife flowers". This male coworker of mine says he feels sorry for the HPD guy's wife.

Sometimes the boss lets his kids help out at the plant, kind of like a "take-your-kids-to-work" day, and I noticed that the HPD guy doesn't yell at them, but does criticise them sometimes, but in a quiet voice (lower than normal speaking volume). So I don't think the guy has Asperger's. Also, one time the boss said to him, "If you press that hard on the product again you're going home" and according to the competent coworker, the HPD guy's face was like he had never heard anyone speak like that to him before! He never said anything to the boss. So it's like he's not afraid of the supervisor's, but maybe he's afraid of the boss?

I've also thought of the possibility that he's depressed, because irritibility is a symptom of depression, but he laughs a lot and makes jokes and can be quite gregarious and sociable. He likes to talk to people and joke around with them. He smiles a lot.

My apologies for only replying now. I had read your post yesterday but failed to respond as I was pressed for time. This guy sounds like a ... well ... loud guy, but I can't say f h has HPD or not. Maybe he has, but you shouldn't be letting him get to you. In fact, he sounds very much like a guy I used to work with who would always be the center of attention in the office when he was around, and he'd cut across everyone, make fun of them, and be very loud. I made the mistake of letting him annoy me too, but I eventually realised that he is the way he is, and that I cannot change him. You will always meet others in your life who will annoy you, but you should never let them get to you.

Kevin