Question on an HPD that popped up again. insight HPD or Nons

Its a question about an HPD I met almost two years ago now, who started showing up again in my class, when she has no registration for said class, and at the very end, made some strange behaviors, then showed up twice in "coincidental" timing at different places on the same day, enough to make me shiver.

My question would be regarding what she was after, and why she was behaving in the manner. I was tempted to try to open communication with her again by acknowledging her or trying to talk to her.

In the very beginning, when I first started this class, she wasn't in there, but showed up the second time of class, since its a once a week deal, and showed up every time since. I felt both a little paranoid, and also felt like I was just making it out of nothing, and being egoist or whatever. See, her ex showed up the first day, so at first I thought she was there to be around him. Then he stopped coming, and she showed up every day after, talking to one person who I consider to be "well advanced" career wise, as an important figure in another college. She kept showing up after he left the semester and dropped the class, where I started to get really curious. The last day she showed up, two weeks before the end of the semester, she wore an outfit that screamed "look at me", and not talking to anyone, she just wandered around until she sat down and gave what you might call the "longing stare" over at a group of people who, like myself, and including myself, were all given the "best friends" to "I want to leave to protect you" to backstabbing and running off.

So I couldn't reasonably assume she was looking at me, although I saw that same "longing stare" with her longtime ex when she stood around for 4 months then tried to be friendly to him again to win him over. I was finishing projects, that earlier I had dropped classes before that I didnt feel I could finish, and she said a long time ago that she was loosing her "creativity" about creating projects when she was taking the class and I went to visit her before. As I was working to finish that day, she walked over to start building her own, after the show of the "longing stare" (the whole thing with the clothing and standing around and then starting to work on something sounds like the "uncomfortable when not the center of attention"). It also made me wonder whether seeing that other people weren't giving up was kind of like piquing her desire to start her own stuff again.

Then she didn't show up to the last class, as finals was next week, and during finals I had to come earlier, and we "chanced" to walk by each other in the parking lot, and then again when I needed change from the cashier office for a parking stub. I did my best to look somewhere else, and then after the final, about 5 hours later, I was with my friend in a bookstore, and she happened to be sitting in the corner that both my friend and myself frequent. Neither of us have ever seen her there before. Once before, in an earlier semester, she showed up, and I tried to communicate with her then, only to be ignored, although she was very upbeat and happy looking when she came to class after I sent her an email, probably since it boosted her self esteem to have me try to talk to her after being rejected so utterly.

My questions are:
Am I just way too paranoid?
Is any of it directed at me, I knowing I have been incited before to make contact?
What thought process is going through her head, if any HPDs or Nons have experience to say what?
How it has turned out for Nons to attempt to be friendly and acknowledge the presence of such a person with greeting, etc, and what came out of it, if any Non has been in the situation?

Ditoros wrote:Am I just way too paranoid?

Paranoid, as in imagining she is purposely putting herself in front of you? Probably not if you were an ex of hers or were valued by her in some way once upon a time.

Ditoros wrote:Is any of it directed at me, I knowing I have been incited before to make contact?

See above, probably not.

Ditoros wrote:What thought process is going through her head, if any HPDs or Nons have experience to say what?

Not sure, maybe something like "OMG WHY IS HE NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO ME? AM I NOT PRETTY ENOUGH?"

Ditoros wrote:How it has turned out for Nons to attempt to be friendly and acknowledge the presence of such a person with greeting, etc, and what came out of it, if any Non has been in the situation?

Umm, I guess she would be receptive? I don't suggest you talk to her though.

asphyx wrote:

Ditoros wrote:Am I just way too paranoid?

Paranoid, as in imagining she is purposely putting herself in front of you? Probably not if you were an ex of hers or were valued by her in some way once upon a time.

Ditoros wrote:Is any of it directed at me, I knowing I have been incited before to make contact?

See above, probably not.

Ditoros wrote:What thought process is going through her head, if any HPDs or Nons have experience to say what?

Not sure, maybe something like "OMG WHY IS HE NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO ME? AM I NOT PRETTY ENOUGH?"

Ditoros wrote:How it has turned out for Nons to attempt to be friendly and acknowledge the presence of such a person with greeting, etc, and what came out of it, if any Non has been in the situation?

Umm, I guess she would be receptive? I don't suggest you talk to her though.

Glad its not just my imagination.

That sounds so superficial, and probably spot on.

Yeah, I definitely understand it wouldn't be pleasant, since she was saying very venomous things about me before, even to the point in saying I was passive aggressive when talking to that important type person after coming back around. I would like to think I could just be a decent human, but I'm sure anything other than meanly ignoring her would only harm me and probably not actually have any sort of benefit for her..