HPDs - Passive Aggressive?

by **living in lalaland** » Mon Nov 23, 2009 5:31 am

Are HPDs especially passive aggressive?

My next-door neighbor often communicates with me by email and texts, and while this is better than being held a captive audience at my door, she usually asks for favors this way. I do answer her messages, but our relationship has been so one-sided that I now tell her I'm busy even when I'm obviously not. I want nothing to do with her anymore, and though I'm polite, I avoid her as much as possible.

The other day, she caught me outside (ugh) and started going on and on randomly about herself as usual, then asked me for another favor. I told her again that I couldn't do it and to ask someone else. She looked stunned, but I wasn't quite sure she understood that my answer was "no". So I sent her an email over the weekend, then a text to make sure she got my messages, knowing that she did, but she didn't respond - that is, until I caught her outside (ha!) on her phone.

I honestly think she was ignoring me because she couldn't get what she wanted, so I've decided that when I can't completely ignore her, I'm going to deal with her in the same patronizing way (treat her like the child she is) she so often has with me.

Yes they sometimes do use passive-aggressive behaviour to get what they want. Just laugh their childish behaviour off and ignore them back and they will eventually stop.

There are also passive-aggressive HPDs which are introverted unlike the usual extroverted HPDs who use their moody behaviour to control their targets.

by **Smacster** » Thu Nov 26, 2009 7:50 am

Drugs?

Been in the same spot. Treat her like a baby, next time she asks you a favor say "You know for someone whose biggest fear is of being alone, you really do try hard to push others away"

You'll get laid~

by **living in lalaland** » Wed Dec 02, 2009 3:40 am

Drugs? Yes, she takes various pills, nothing of the kind that I want. She sleeps for 24 hours straight then acts indignant when people wonder why doesn't show up to where she's supposed to be or even call to let them know she's not coming.

Laid? No, thanks, we're both straight women! I've noticed, though, that the men around us may be initially attracted to her, but none seem to stick around for long.

by **Smacster** » Wed Dec 02, 2009 3:50 am

Probably because she's had sex with them already.

by **living in lalaland** » Thu Dec 03, 2009 5:36 am

Yeah, that's what I thought at first, but since moving here and listening to her talk (and talk and talk...) about all the guys she's dated, usually just once, I've since realized that she's probably just all-talk.

A few were probably exhausted (or just annoyed) by all her talk and didn't stick around, but those who did are probably led on or kept as "friends". Her exes may have been jerks themselves, at least if I were to believe what she says, but I think I understand and feel sorry for them as I know what they probably went through with her. Knowing what I do about her, I think that even if the sex was good just once, there probably wasn't much of it after that (especially with all her physical complaints and the pills she takes).

So to HPD partners and exes out there, others (family, friends, co-workers and even neighbors) do see the HPD as they really are.

by **Smacster** » Thu Dec 03, 2009 8:17 am

If lala land is in the boston area send this one my way!

by **living in lalaland** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 12:18 am

Funny - I'm actually from the Boston area, but I've been living in LA for the past ten years (hence the username).

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