Signs of a cheating HPD?

Since most of my posts are about my maybe cheating spouse, I was curious if anyone had a list of warning signs that mat indicate infidelity with an HPD since cheating is so common with them. My situation is a little bit stranger since my HPD is not a social person, she doesnt flirt with other men around me, she doesnt drive or use the computer and she only goes out with her mother if she isnt with me. Im pretty sure though that all her cheating if she has been, is at her jobs since whenever she works somewhere, men are always calling, saying they're sleeping with her and all that and of course she spouts the trademark sexual harassment of an HPD. So would anyone be able to give me any insight on the signs?

*she does use her cell phone to text ALL the time and she has no friends, and she did delete call logs on her phone of conversations with male coworkers at her job, but no other calls which I found weird. Also she has had an increased interest in having sex with me, when before she started her new job, was always "painful" or she just wasnt interested.

HPD are not good liar. If SOMETHING happens, you can feel it by your gut.

When she cheat on you,
she will avoid eyes contact, avoid body contact, because she feels she is dirty.
Speak too weak or too loud or too fast, and no willing to tell it anymore.
If you ask more, she will become into Fighting Mode, and she knows you are afraid of that.

She will make a big crazy story for cover what has happened.
Of course you are smart enough to find out it is a big lie, but you don't dare to ask for the truth.
Normal people lie, normal people will think though and make sure others will believe them, HPD do not.
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HPD deny the truth because they can't face the real world. They are living in their own dream.
In the dream, they are lovable, cure, beautiful, smart,
always be a good guy, a faithful Christian or a victim who need to be rescued.
If you want to stay with her, don't break her dream.

If you want to save her, you are the NEXT monster.
Unfortunately, you are too smart to be her partner.
She will hate you, because hate what she has done, she hates herself.

Are you sure you can afford that ?
Spend all your life time, hurt your family and children feeling, lost your friends, try to make her happy, and she will cheat on you, maybe... next minute ?
Worth ?

The signs changed depending on how her back-up plan was shaping up. For example, if she felt confident that her back up plan was solid, she would act more aggressive in behavior and demeanor. Part of me ironically found that refreshing cause atleast it felt a little more 'real'. During these times her tone was full of underlying anger and her ability to rage seemed much more in the forefront. Like a volcano on the brink of exploding, but instead simmering steadily...

However, when she had no prospects, or her back up plan failed, or when she had no faith in her back up plan, she presented as very needy and highly clingy. There was a desperation in her presentation and she appeared even frightened at times. The tones greatly shifted from anger to a deep sadness. You could feel the weight of disorder more so in this stage. It was often during this time thst she went out of her way to be pleasing and accomodating.

It took awhile to understand her patterns partly cause sillyl ol me I trusted her <<<insert sarcasm

Her behvaior can be so erratic at times, I dont really know what she is planning. When we fight, she immediately calls my best friend and tells him the whole story (from her view) and is calm and collected when Im not around. However when I am there and we have just fought she is weeping, accusing me of all types of things and I am the worst man in the world responsible for all her problems. ( shes trapped in our apartment, she cant see her mother, she cant pay her bills, we cant go out, we can't buy all the crap she wants, etc...) I think she is cheating now, only because of her odd behavior in regards to her job *see my paternity post*

Dude, if men from her work are calling and saying they are sleeping with her, I'd say you can take that to the bank.

P.S., I hope you're protecting yourself from STDs.

I agree with Roni, you really can take that one to the bank. If you have guys telling you that then yes its a very very high probability its going on.

My HPD was obvious but I didn't really think she was serious about the new guy.

She flirted with him for days , and told me each night how wonderful he was.

Then she dressed up real sexy and seduced him.

We had been "married" one week.

I was shocked to say the least!

Here were the signs for mine.

(1) I would be out of town or otherwise unavailable
(2) Initially I would get a lot of hysterical attention seeking phone calls
(3) Then, dead silence
(4) Detachment when I got back
(5) Sometimes followed by hollow romantic gestures