HPD – Who’d a thunk it?

by **Disgruntled** » Wed Jul 01, 2009 8:34 pm

Thanks everyone. We are now working on this.

Your here cause you have come to the realization that it is impossible to continue this relationship. You just haven't admitted it to yourself...just yet

However your feeling it. The exhaustion is mounting and the damned if do, damned if you don't is mounting. You can't win with her and you know it.

While it is admirable that you want her to be successful and safe but that one is on her. Do you see how emeshed you are with her and how unhealthy it is?

You say your not a quitter and that is often a good thing. However you need to ask yourself...honestly how much more of yourself are you willing to lose? A partner should compliment your life, but all I see in your post is chronic complications...and they are slowly but surely increasing

Have you ever considered how much you have quit on yourself by being with her? NOBODY is worth that..ever

Be well

by **Disgruntled** » Thu Jul 02, 2009 11:24 am

MyWave -

Thank you for reply and concern. I really do appreciate it.

I have a question for you and the others here on the forum...

It appears that the vast majority of people here have already come to the conclusion that relationships with HPD people are a lost cause. It's almost like the HPD's are looked at as things to be avoided instead of people in need of help. Doesn't anyone out there believe that with the proper care, support, and discipline, an HPD person can learn to overcome and/or control their difficulties?

by **Roni** » Thu Jul 02, 2009 7:02 pm

Well, the short answer is this: Do you want a relationship with an adult or a child? Because, believe me, if she is HPD she will never grow up. I know that usually when one uses the word 'never' it's an exaggeration, but in this case it's not- she will NEVER grow up. It will only get worse with time. I'm sorry for the bad news, but best you give up false hope. Good luck with your recovery- we feel ya.

by **Disgruntled** » Fri Jul 03, 2009 1:47 am

She and I have talked about this and we have had a good start. I editted my initial post to keep it from her. No sense in pushing too hard. She is receptive and will be doing her own research and may come across this. If she does, no harm done, I hope. Can't seem to delete it entirely. And now that i think about it, screw it. Do not delete this, mods. This is a hidden message for her if she finds it and even if she doesn't, I have a message for the rest of you.

I WILL NOT GIVE UP. Not yet. I appreciate the help. But, I am ex-military. We don't leave anyone behind. Life is a battle. She is down, but not out. Wish me luck. Booya, gramma. Booya! To hell and back. I know the way.

- Disgruntled.

I am that, in life at times, but not terminally. Maybe the rest of you should seek higher ground. I know I am. These are people, after all. Last words to those that are in my shoes... Who else is going to do it if you don't?

Peace to all of you. Will report back when I know something. Wish me luck... I'm going in.

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