thanks

Chazz,

Thank you for posting your story. It has actually given me a little bit of hope. Where I do act out in ways, I have never done anything quite that dramatic.

I wonder if there are milder forms of HPD or it's just "You have it or you don't."

Again, Thank you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but it's made you who you are and you're undoubtedly helping people on this forum.

"Lucky you" chazz.

It is normal for PD's to beleive some kind of supernatural force that dives them and justifies their "ilusions".

Things like "destiny" become over valued by this kind of persons...

Hi Kas

Thanks for the reply. How do you act out?

Chazz

Chazz,

Your story is like looking at a mirror! The story you tell is mind blowing and it seems like the things that your ex told you were the things that the hpd said, its common for them to secure the supply!

You found out like I did through emails and investigating, good job! I did the same thing and I still am in shock of how dishonest these hpd people are! No care in the world about the evil acts they trick lovers with only to move on like your the psycho, it helps keep the distance between you and the new supply! Huge tool the hpd uses to play the victim and keep distance from the truth! My ex used it on me and it worked until I found emails and logged on internet accounts!

As to talking to your exes ex, do it! You may be surprised to find out that she was doing the same things with him! It was the deal breaker that brought me out of the "was it me" stage! I talked to people that my ex would declare as psychos and stalkers only to find out that it was her that was stalking and trying to keep in touch with her exes. Through talking to some of the exes I found out about a 14 year old that my ex was seducing while she was 25-27? I also found out how cruel my ex was to her ex husband, the guy is a total wreck and I even talked to her ex husbands father and he told me that her ex has not dated and no longer has the ability to trust anyone! You might find out just how strange your ex is and I don't know how many people do look into their exes past on here, but it does help with the closure of the abnormal relationship with them!

Welcome and I'm sorry that you had this type of experience with a women like this! Just watch out for the red flags in the next relationship and life will be good!!!
Chad

Hi Chad

Thanks for the reply. I am sorry for your experience also.

I am very tempted to reach out to him. I don't know if I will.

I am definitely past the "it was my fault" stage. I know now that it wasn't. I could never have suspected the depth of her betrayals behind my back...nor can I ever be responsible for them.

All I can think of is how lucky I am that I read those emails. Otherwise I would probably have blamed myself forever.

I am also lucky that we didn't get engaged, married or have kids together. Imagine if i found her emails afterwards. What a mess I would have been in. And I wasn't planning to have her sign a pre-nup. As my sister said...I really dodged a bullet.

Chazz

Chazz that is quite an ordeal you have been put through. Many similarities in our stories and experiences. Part of my investigation into her had to do with emails as well...

The endings with them are a cold one. Like you said a lightswitch turns on and you see their real self...

I hope you never let her back in your life. They never change and they always lie, manipulate, and eventually hurt those who get close to them.

You are a bright and intelligent guy and in good time will heal fully from this. I am glad that you found this board

welcome

Mywave

Thank you for the reply. I am humbled by the support on this board. As you know the aftermath is very confusing with so many questions. This board is helping me find the answers.

I plan to follow your advice.

Chazz

If you are a fan of "Officer and A Gentleman" a good example of an HPD is "Lynnette" who won't marry Sid because he DOR'd at the end of the movie.

M and I used to quote this movie all the time joking we were Zach and Paula...it turns out she was a "Lynnette"...and I was her Sid..

Here's another..."Memo Paris" from "The Natural"

What kind of "revealing" statements would you see in e-mails?

Maybe what they really think of us.......???


My HPD/NPD was back before E-mail existed..........


I only have one quotation.........when talking about her next husband, she said:

"He's not much, he's like a pet dog!"

She probably put me down the same way.........to her hot boy-friends .........while she completely ignored and abandonned her "husband".......right after our "honeymoon".

Yep..I'd really like to know what these girls say behind our back...