well well well

Well I got my son for three days. My ex-HPD gave me my son for the last three days(this was the weekend we were going to get married)
and my family came down and stayed in the hotel they reserved for the wedding.

So my question is this. my ex called me on Friday to ask what I needed. I said I need the stroller and if you have bottle liners that would be great because you wiped me out of all of my sons things.She said sure Ill bring the things.

Well she showed up with my son and she DIDN'T bring the stroller or any bottle liners as promised. She said she forgot! So I grabbed my son and shook my head and told her "I cant believe you forgot his stuff after you called me to find out what I NEEDED. I took my son and left and she drove off like nothing. Then I recieved a call on my phone five minutes later and my ex said sorry I forgot the stroller...ill bring it tomorrow. I told her ill be in and out of the house all day so please just put the stroller between the door(we have two doors with a little patio area.) Well After she promised to drop of the stroller she DID NOT. I documented this for my lawyer.

Is this just apart of HPD games?? She was the one who called me to ask what I needed.

I can't say if this is conscious scheming or not, however I do recognise the pattern. My ex ALWAYS had the greatest promises (for example "Tomorrow I'm going to get up at 8 and go to the bank, then straight to my job administration to get my check fixed so I can still mail the forms before noon and fix this $#%^. And after that I'm going home and cleaning the whole house! I really want to straighten stuff out once and for all, and be done with this garbage!!!"). When I came home at night usually NOTHING was done, and she usually happened to have had the WORST night ever, no sleep at all, so she only got up around 11, with the biggest migraine ever, and then she tried to clean a little, but her mom decided to visit... yadda yadda yadda...

So even though I can't vouch for the grounds of this behaviour, I'm not surprised one bit. I think the infantile personality is also in there pretty much, regarding this issue. As a teenager I was EXACTLY the same: "tomorrow I'm cleaning up my room!". Riiiight . And even then, there was no malicious intent. I was just a bit lazy and didn't think it was a big deal. This becomes a whole other deal when your partner is already high maintenance (let's face it - that's ONE thing they definitely are) and then starts to shun responsibilities, intended or not. Adult life is hard enough without constantly having to pick up the slack of a supposedly equal partner.

i doubt it was a personal/designed approach on her part... my experience has been that they are so self serving that it's probably that she meant it when she said it (makes her look & feel good) and that she blew it off because she already filled her "in the moment" gratification need.

By the time it came up for her to fulfill the commitment something else was more important.

Don't waiste ur time calling her out... she neither cares nor has the ability to comprehend where you are coming from.

you will quickly learn how to lower (eliminate) ur expectations of her & proactively manage against allowing urself to get abused by her.

My ex will call me out to the letter on everything regarding the parental agreement & honor nothing & abuse all boundaries set for her.

Document everything... email & text only. If & when you have enough data you can have the "trading" of ur child done at a nuetral site (police station)... her inability to follow rules will be exposed and you will benefit.

Stay unemotional, be perfect on ur end & be patient. Her "uniqueness" will very likely play into ur hands vs driving u crazy.