does this forum have real HPD's

That is not a shot at you

I didn't take it as a shot at me. i took it as a shot at my husband. which i won't stand for. don't be afraid for him for taking the chance. admire his strength and his love, but don't be afraid. all of my things are in a storage unit right now. he's looking out for his own sanity, but he is also balancing that with his real love. he knows what he is doing.

I am thankful that you can give me some insight to why you do the things you do. But it must be hard because you know yourself so little.

yeah. true. i'm still trying to figure it out

Will my ex-hpd partner try
to win me back again or try to seduce me again? what kind of
games can i expect for the next 18 years since we had a child together? Will she get mad once I find someone else or will she not even care? I guess what I am asking is how I can make her regret what she did...how do I get the power over her that would drive her crazy. I never want to be with her again...I just want to finally feel like the ball is in my court. I want this power over her so that I don't fall for her tricks again. she stripped me of my power and I want it back.

sorry. i have no idea what she will do or try to do. if you try to play a game - like "make her..." you will lose. you don't want to be with her ever again so just leave it at that

you have power over yourself. only you can get it back.

sorry i can't be much more help.

CMJ-

I know exactly how you feel about where our x's go from here. Once their new relationships end, do they come crawling back? I want closure in many different aspects.. First in foremost, finding out exactly what was going on and getting confirmation from other's that they too understand our dilemna.. The other side being.. we invested all this time and heartache into this relationship and they just turn and walk away like we were absolutely nothing.. without emotion or concern for our feelings. I want to walk, but it's like there is a part of me that won't let me do it yet.. unfinished business.. Maybe that sounds too vindictive.. I don't know.. but it is very hurtful to find out you have been played like this for so long.. especially when we would put their happiness before our own (unconditional love). It is such a mixed bag of emotions on our part, and then I can't help but imagine what she went through as a child, and I put myself in her shoes.. Then I have the compassion and pity.. No easy answers for us or those with HPD/BPD.. But I do wonder where she will be a month from now,6 months from now,a year from now, or longer.. It's sad.. this person you love and thought loved you is really nothing more than a shell. Because the person we thought was there, just moved on.. almost like they never existed..