Life is Good!

For all of you that have had the misfortune of having been involved with a HPD, I can tell you that...

it gets better. Recovery is not only possible, it will happen. Of course you have to want to recover and for those of you that do, you will!

You will also attain a great deal of satisfaction from your experience if you allow it and welcome it when it comes.

And it will come!

I believe so many of us cling to the pain far too long. It is normal and necassary to grieve the loss of a loved one... and let's face it, the HPD has the innate ability to extract monumental love from us and when they leave it is no less a acute loss than a death. At least it felt like a death to me. As I am not so different from so many of you and I think I can say this without fear of retribution... or maybe not ;oD

Rest assured you are stronger than you think you are. I know you are... believe in yourself. It may not happen today, it may not happen tomorrow or next week but there will come a day sooner than you think, when the pain has eased and you will notice it. You will notice that you feel better... better about yourself, about life, about going to the grocery store, about cleaning out the catbox... well, maybe not about that, but most things in your life!

It is then that you might cast a glance over your shoulder at the HPD and see that she is still mired in her miserable life, even without you there to blame it on. At that moment you will feel a smile at the corner of your mouth. Your brow will furrow and you will reflect for a moment and ask yourself is it okay to smile at her suffering?

The answer is yes.

For you can be sure in the knowledge that it was NOT you that caused her any discomfort. You will steel yourself in the knowledge that during your time together you did everything humanly possible to ease her pain, to placate her suffering and she did not allow it.

Then the epiphany... there exists justice in the world and that justice is administered by a higher power.

Then you can turn your back to her and your eyes forward to your future and know that it is going to be bright.

It is at that very moment that you know everything is going to be okay.

Life is good!

And what a smile it is- relief, contentment, relaxation, serenity. Life is indeed good, ccumm. Enjoy it my friend!!!

I am happy for you. Reading this gives me hope, and I need it

Best wishes

I like to read something like this, in the midst of all the other postings of pain and confusion.
It's hopeful and helpful.
Thanks for posting this, and I'm happy for you!
Lifesong

Glad to hear your feeling good 36D + thanks for this uplifting post.

I'm getting there. I've stopped beating myself up about feeling bad.
+ Just started wanting to look better again (ie exercise + buy clothes, clean my car etc).

Its taken six long months to get this far.
But its better than the laying in bed shaking/crying/existing on milk that I did at first.

Just done a weeks yoga course - that helped.

Looking forward to being with someone who won't reject me every time I go near her. (Though not really ready to date yet). Progress !