How do you get a HPD girl to chase you?

I have a female coworker who led me on big time with her flirting and seduction. She is the ultimate attention whore and she DEFINITELY has histrionic personality disorder. What is the best way to get her to chase me? Ignore her?

Hi,

I don't think that calling her a 'whore' shows that you view her in a positive light. Are you sure that your intentions for her are good? If you want to love this girl, you will first have to respect her.

To answer your question: Don't look upon her as having HPD. Just treat her as any 'normal' person and I think that will be best. The moment you regard her as having a mental disorder is the moment you feel that she is deficient in some form. This obviously isn't true.

Kevin.

Kevin,

He understands she is deficient, he wants to nail her.

UCS,
Stay far far away from that woman. I don't know if you are a car guy, but these women are like 1980's Jaguars. They look nice and sure it's tempting to take a test drive...But once you do, it's like a drug. Soon that car will be in your garage pissing oil and god knows what everywhere and draining your wallet too.

These women seem like they are a challenge, they are far far worse. I know she might be a good notch on the bedpost, but honestly you are better off finding some high priced escort and wasting money that way!!!

-Sam

Dan wrote:Kevin,

He understands she is deficient, he wants to nail her.

Well, I know that, but if he doesn't want to her her feelings, he should just not bother pursuing this. What kind of person would intentionally hurt another's feelings?

Kevin.

Chucky wrote:To answer your question: Don't look upon her as having HPD. Just treat her as any 'normal' person and I think that will be best. The moment you regard her as having a mental disorder is the moment you feel that she is deficient in some form. This obviously isn't true.

How can you say this? treat her as a normal person? are you serious?

It is TRUE that the HPD has a mental disorder and they are deficient, to ignore this is to ignore that HPD exists at all.

I'm pretty sure that most people that have ever engaged in an intimate relationship with a HPD treated them like a normal person to their own detriment, we soon find out they are anything but normal. Treating the HPD as a normal person is a lost cause.

Unless you’re a masochist, don’t engage in an intimate relationship with a HPD.

I see your point nicholas. I just felt that if he starts viewing her as having HPD, then he is viewing her as being 'disabled/deficient' in some form. That - coupled with the fact that he doesn't appear to be interested in anything but 'bedding' her - is a recipe for disaster. I fear that she will be hurt - that is my concern.

Kevin.

Chucky wrote:I see your point nicholas. I just felt that if he starts viewing her as having HPD, then he is viewing her as being 'disabled/deficient' in some form. That - coupled with the fact that he doesn't appear to be interested in anything but 'bedding' her - is a recipe for disaster. I fear that she will be hurt - that is my concern.

Kevin.

Yes I understand your point.

Chucky wrote:I see your point nicholas. I just felt that if he starts viewing her as having HPD, then he is viewing her as being 'disabled/deficient' in some form. That - coupled with the fact that he doesn't appear to be interested in anything but 'bedding' her - is a recipe for disaster. I fear that she will be hurt - that is my concern.

Kevin.

Of course she will be hurt and if she truly is HPD she wouldn't want it any other way. In all things she must be the victim. To be the victim she must be hurt, injured, damaged in some way. Even superficially will do. Hell, even if she's not hurt she will say that she is, so it doesn't really matter.

The way to attract her attention is to appear to be unattainable. Treat her with disdain, scorn and indifference.

You're a big boy, it's only fire you're playing with... what's the worst that could happen?

Revenge is a terrible thing. It usually backfires but if he feels strongly that he must engage this woman... hey, good luck with that!

Hi Everyone,
I think one thing I forgot to point out: You said you work with this girl?

I don't know if you've read the other threads here, but you are really asking for trouble. It's not below an HPD to go to HR and file sexual harassment complaint against you or even worse go to the Police. These people are attention whores.

It does not matter whether you are guilty or not, in today's world it's guilty until proven innocent.

Don't dip your pen in the company ink..It's a surefire recipe for disaster.

I know Revenge is tempting here, but you have far too much to lose. If she wasn't someone you work with I'd say go for it, but that isn't the case.

In the case of my own HPD friend, I simply sent a very sharply worded email calling her out on the things she did. I also told her exactly what I thought of her, HPD's fear the truth about themselves so this was highly effective.

If you are feeling a little more adventurous you can simply tell her she isn't as good looking as she thinks she is, I told my HPD "You aren't all that. I've seen enough naturally beautiful women and they don't need layers of heavy makeup. I've seen how you look without your makeup and if that is what you take pride in, God help you.."

Given she is a coworker I am not even sure that will work. Just ignore her. If you want to play some mild mind games just point out prettier women and show zero interest in her looks.

As I said before, revenge is tempting here, but I'd use more passive means to get back at her. HPD's are incredibly easy to manipulate and mess with once you get their logic.

-Sam