How do you get a HPD girl to chase you?

ssr360 wrote:...I don't know if you've read the other threads here, but you are really asking for trouble. It's not below an HPD to go to HR and file sexual harassment complaint against you or even worse go to the Police. These people are attention whores.

It does not matter whether you are guilty or not, in today's world it's guilty until proven innocent.

Bingo! Booyah! Yahtzee!

ssr360 wrote:I don't know if you've read the other threads here, but you are really asking for trouble. It's not below an HPD to go to HR and file sexual harassment complaint against you or even worse go to the Police. These people are attention whores.

I didn't work with my ex-HPD, she doesn't work, but she did complain to my HR department about me criticizing her business while at my job. Her "business" is a merely a website that draws no customers. She hasn't worked a day since I met her.

She also called the police, I have no idea what she said but she claims she never mentioned my name.

Stay away from these people, it's almost a guaranteed disaster.

nowhereman

Wow! That's quite the story. It's seems like the prototypical HPD will stoop to any level..

I had my so called HPD friend boxed in. I just knew too much about her misdeeds stuff her hubby and parents didn't know. I reminded her I'd happily sue her if she did anything to cause any trouble. She knows I am quite capable of it.

But for the readers here: If you see a HPD in your life and you feel oh so tempted: RUN!!! Run as fast as you can. These people are just the most self destructive people out there.

I am glad I was never in love with my HPD friend, and I shudder to think what would have happened if I did.

HPD's are like 10 yr old Kias trying to masquerade as a Mercedes Benz. (No offense to Kia owners) Everything they say about themselves is exaggerated and aggrandized.

It's almost like if they tell the lie enough times it will become the truth (Example: OJ Simpson "I will find the real killers")

Trusting your heart to these kind of people is like trusting Michael Jackson (Anyone want some Jesus juice) to watch your kids. I don't know about you, but I don't want some Wacko Jacko sharing my bed!!!!

I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive. I was only friends with my HPD and as much as she hurt me, I realize the joke is on her. All of us have waste precious time with these sort of people but the bigger lesson here is: We are not them!! And we should be thankful for that!!!

-Sam

To Everyone,

To continue on the avoid and run far away from these people advice.

Below is a link to al bernsteins' site on how to protect yourself.

http://www.albernstein.com/id62.htm

Additionally, from that list item mumber 5 is "IDENTIFY HYPNOTIC STRATEGY" would someone knowledgeable please offer further explanation.

Thanks,

Ohioguy

Ohioguy1002 wrote:item mumber 5 is "IDENTIFY HYPNOTIC STRATEGY" would someone knowledgeable please offer further explanation. Ohioguy

not that i have any particular insight, but the hypnotic strategy is the hook- the thing they use to bind you to the relationship and torment your soul. the modus operandi of connecting with what you need, what you find irresistible, what they can employ to control, motivate and manipulate you. everyone who has begun a post with "my ex-hpd" knows that they were, for some reason, susceptible. our defense mechanisms often protect us from full realization of what it is exactly, but the hpd can spot it and once they do...

ssr360 wrote:Hi Everyone,
I think one thing I forgot to point out: You said you work with this girl?

I don't know if you've read the other threads here, but you are really asking for trouble. It's not below an HPD to go to HR and file sexual harassment complaint against you or even worse go to the Police. These people are attention whores.

It does not matter whether you are guilty or not, in today's world it's guilty until proven innocent.

Don't dip your pen in the company ink..It's a surefire recipe for disaster.

I know Revenge is tempting here, but you have far too much to lose. If she wasn't someone you work with I'd say go for it, but that isn't the case.

In the case of my own HPD friend, I simply sent a very sharply worded email calling her out on the things she did. I also told her exactly what I thought of her, HPD's fear the truth about themselves so this was highly effective.

If you are feeling a little more adventurous you can simply tell her she isn't as good looking as she thinks she is, I told my HPD "You aren't all that. I've seen enough naturally beautiful women and they don't need layers of heavy makeup. I've seen how you look without your makeup and if that is what you take pride in, God help you.."

Given she is a coworker I am not even sure that will work. Just ignore her. If you want to play some mild mind games just point out prettier women and show zero interest in her looks.

As I said before, revenge is tempting here, but I'd use more passive means to get back at her. HPD's are incredibly easy to manipulate and mess with once you get their logic.

-Sam

I agree with ssr360 here: the scarce good that you might get by chasing or being chased/idolized by the HPD is IMMENSELY outweighted by the gigantic amount of bad of the whole situation. At first, they seem charming, nice, special and seductive. In the long run, you realize how needy, insincere, insensitive, inconsiderate, illogical people they can become. Better off without them as they may be liking you one day, ignoring you the very next day. They are NOT mentally stable so why go there at all?

Also, I must share my own experience of my own HPD long=time HPD friend ( I had her for a combined time of five years in my life), I first sent her a document and article on HPD. Then unexpectedly, she added me back on MSN, admitted that she had faked uterine cancer with no remorse, tried to pass me off as simply an angry, arrogant, ignorant, judgmental person and that she NEVER did betray me (oh, that- in her opinion- was all in my mind), that I only scared her away. I simply rattled off the truth, the incidents (recalling the year, the date and the approximative times of day) and gave her the link to my post on her on this site. When I pointed at all her inconsistencies in her lies and how it didn't add up, I could see the frail walls of her fantasy world crumbling and she started to squirm mentally. I then continued by showing her hypocritical way of life, her inconsistencies between what she says and thinks and what she does, and that she was empty, vacant and fake to everyone, including herself. She responded to me that I supposedly am the only one who knew her like an open book and not even her dad or exes knew her like I did, and that she lied about on the time periods where she lived in New York, that she was in Rhode Island supposedly to get married before but being her HPD self, she wound up hurting the other guy and not making one damn lick of sense. Whatever. Then, she tried to turned the attention from her wrongdoings to her trying to garner my sympathy for her mental instability and disorder.

When I was monotously, boldly and stoically telling her off on the lies she told me, she tried to turn it around on how I supposedly hate her and was laughing at her...I didn't, I just pitied her. I warned her that she was just looking for that attention supply right there, told her to seek professional treatment, and to not contact me ever again, since she almost always bitched, whined and cried about everything but did nothing to help herself. Finally, I had to go to sleep and she apologized for all the $#%^, for taking me for granted. The next day, she posted a message on how she had to delete me, that I am much better off without her in my life ( damn right, but I didn't need her to realize that), how she didn't sleep that night due to what I said and my post here recalling my entire history with her, she apologized again, saying that words couldn't make up for it, that my honesty and generosity might help her better herself and that I'll never hear from her again.

Getting back on the topic, seriously man, you have to analyze your inner motives and goals for even wanting to chase/be chased by a HPD person despite knowing of her personality disorder. What is it that makes you so attracted to these people. Now, you can do whatever it is that you want to do but quite frankly, to willingly pursue a relationship or whatever despite knowing of the HPD's nature is emotional sadomasochism.