Tried To Remain Friends

Typical conversations we had tonight after I tried to remain friends

Her: Hey I pashed a guy on the weekend and my friend took some photos of it, I’m going to send them to you, tell me what you think.
Me: Sweet, send them over

I look at the photos and see her pashing some guy and think cool, yeah whatever.

Her: what do you think?
Me: very cool, you guys look hot together
Her: yeah we do, he was a really good kisser
Me: yeah you guys look like you kiss well
Her: Yeah we did, he came up to me and asked to kiss me and at first I said no, but then he touched my neck so I couldn’t resist, he was really muscely and manly.
Me: That’s heep’s cool, I’m glad you had a good night out, (as a joke I say) now that you have bagged yourself a guy let the competition begin, I need to get myself a pash from a girl.
Her: no no, you can’t do that
Me: Why not
Her: because I love you and it would devastate me, I would get so jealous
Me: But if you can hook up I should be allowed to too
Her: Then I would never talk to you ever again, it would hurt me too much
Me: but you just hooked up with a guy
Her: Yeah but it was just a kiss, I love you so much

The conversation continued and crapped on for a while until she said I can’t do this, I can’t talk to you anymore knowing that you want to meet other girls, keeping in mind im 900kms away from her in a new city I moved too.

Maintaing a friendship post break up is just as exhausting when in a relationship with a HPD.

You gotta be kidding me! Sounds almost DEJAVU VERBATUM what my ex said to me! OH man you gotta be kidding me.lmao

Yeah sledge its a bit of a mind twister hey...

The only way I could respond to her sending me photos of her kissing another guy and talking so enthusiastically about it was to also become interested and enthusiastic, even though I wasn’t in the slightest one bit interested in her photos of her kissing another guy nor interested in how good-a kisser he was.

Once you work out the psychology of the HPD, it’s very easy to play their game, but the unfortunate reality is that you will never win it, this is always due to their irrational and illogical tactics that they employ.

So after having heard her tell me that she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore, she has so far called me three times today, I have spoken to her once out of those three calls.

She tells me she loves me and that I have a sexual hold on her that she can’t break, yet she will happily tell me all these things only to end a conversation about how one of her fantasies is to have one of the hot guys at the gym ###$ her in the showers. I kid you not that’s what she said after having told me how she wants me and loves me so much.

I think you need to be thankful she only pashed this guy. You wanna make sure that if her fantasy ever plays out, that her friend ain't around to be taking photo's, coz no doubt they'd end up in your email, along with step-by-step instructions of how it all happened.

What a hoot of a conversation.....certainly has entertainment value, eh?

shivers wrote:What a hoot of a conversation.....certainly has entertainment value, eh?

Yes, it certainly does shivers, I'm now in about the 101th time of not being talked too ever again, I wonder how long this one will last.

I got the third degree the other night about how I don't love her because I don't go home and visit her. And I said, all I can offer you is my friendship, thats all I want from you. She couldn't handle that so she isn't talking to me anymore.

use your Bachelors Degree and stop talking with her.... despite the entertainment value, you may find yourself getting slowly roped back in again.

shivers wrote:use your Bachelors Degree and stop talking with her.... despite the entertainment value, you may find yourself getting slowly roped back in again.

hahaha good call shivers, I haven't spoken to her for a few days now, I do feel much clearer and fresher by not talking to her.

I don't think I will get roped back out into being with her, but I do feel that any sort of contact with her is a rope back into her dramatized world, which is exhausting enough.

funny how we feel 'fresher' when there's been no contact......it's like an emotional cleansing.

BTW, name's Lynn.

shivers wrote:funny how we feel 'fresher' when there's been no contact......it's like an emotional cleansing.

BTW, name's Lynn.

Yes, Lynn

Well guess who called me last night at 1:30 in the morning? Yep, she rang to ask me when I was coming home to see her!! This is after our last conversation of her not ever wanting to talk to me again!! so the cycle continues.

Then she started to get up me about me not wanting to speak to her!! I said 4 days ago you told me you never wanted to speak to me again!!! I was just respecting that wish.

I know I shouldn't answer her calls, but then I worry something may have happend to her, because I do care about her well being as a friend.

some time ago there was a thread on here about staying friends with an HPD and the overwhelming opinion was that it was not really possible.

Any sort of caring on your behalf, is only going to get you roped back in.

I'm not experienced with HPD but I was with an NPD for 5 years and any emotions I had for him left me a long time ago. He's just an annoyance now that I have to deal with when he wants access to our daughter. I wish I didn't have to deal with him even on that level.

If you don't need to deal with this woman, cut the strings and forget about her.