Do HPDs play hard to get?

Musician924 wrote:

Optimist77 wrote:[quote=

A REAL relationship would end their game. They wouldn't want that, would they?

Having sex with somebody does not carry the same emotional attachment for a HPD as it does for non HPD's.

Easy lay or not is a moot point.

People with HPD can discard you just like a used plastic bag, which did serve a purpose at the time of coming home from a supermarket. That's about it.

Was it an important item? Oh yes, At that time!

Hello Optimist:
I strongly agree with what you say about the plastic bag. In what seems to be a deep, meaningful relationship it's a shock to be trashed like that, I thought she was the one, we had plans, we seemed to be best friends.... However the reality was that it was all a facade, i had served my use, and in my case she trashed me when I least expected it, but then took me back out just as quickly, to do the same again a month later. I was totally confused, and I cannot begin to explain the shock, nothing made sense, nothing was rationalized, just kneed jerk decision making that I was on the receiving end of. Initially my internal compass lost the North. However, when I figured what was coming (and that took time to understand, 6 months more in that relationship in order to analyse my intuitions based on the results of her actions; constantly changing, and then digest and rationalize an action plan to escape...) i preferred the trash can to her. I discovered that she was someone that I did not know, she had promoted a false self to seduce me, an imposter.

I saw her at the works canteen yesterday. She had 800 seats to choose from, but naturally chose a place where I would notice her. Knowing that's what she wants through experience, I made a point of ignoring her and enjoying myself in the company i was with.

All in all, often nasty, selfish people that play games with other peoples lives and too often walk away from the aftermath without a scratch. I still often say to myself that she has not payed the bill and should. Then i realise that my ignorance and indifference suffice...she does hate to be ignored

Musician[/quote]

It still amazes me to read posts in here that perfectly sum up part of my relationship and my consequent reactions (anger, hurt, frustration, confusion, wanting revenge and all the rest of the emotional struggles) summed up by other people. I feel so lucky to have found this forum. Thankgod for you all.