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So are we suckers for falling for HPD's?

Postby JohnJames » Sun Jan 27, 2008 7:38 pm

The reason I ask is because there are at least 4 people (1 male and 3 females) that gave me the old "I told you so."

Although I had no warning that she had HPD, so many people saw that she was worth avoiding when I couldn't. Was I in some way unconsciously looking for trouble?
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Postby JohnJames » Sun Jan 27, 2008 7:47 pm

Also, what can we do to avoid running into one in the future?

Sorry for so many questions, I've had to deal with alone for months.

I hope I can get to a point where I know enough to contribute.

Thanks.
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Postby some1new » Sun Jan 27, 2008 10:57 pm

I think it just takes experience, itimate experience to learn. If we're healthy, we can be vulnerable. Don't beat yourself up over it. It takes time, and you may never be able to reason it all away.
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Postby ccumm36D » Mon Jan 28, 2008 12:34 am

No, we're not suckers...

then again maybe.

Why place the blame on yourself? Does that make you feel better? That some how you were a victim of a woman with a cluster B personality disorder because there is something wrong with you?

Do you really believe that?

No, she seemed to be the perfect woman, at least your idea of the perfect woman. Good looking, sexy, outspoken, adventerous, uninhibited, sexual... am I getting close? Or too close?

Then she actually seemed interested in you. You both seemed to have such similar interests. She liked many of the same things you like. She enjoyed the same kind of music, movies, etc... And WOW! You never thought in a million years you'd ever meet much less have a relationship with a woman like that...

Then no sooner had it started then it was over...

your head left spinning...

asking what happened, what did I do? Wait...!

You treated her nice, you were good to her. You bought her gifts, took her out, entertained her, began thinking of the possibility of a long term relationship...

How does any of that soumd like you did anything wrong or that there was something wrong with you? That's what men are supposed to do when they meet a woman they like.
"It's not how hard you can hit. It's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward".
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Postby JohnJames » Mon Jan 28, 2008 1:02 am

ccumm36D wrote:No, she seemed to be the perfect woman, at least your idea of the perfect woman. Good looking, sexy, outspoken, adventerous, uninhibited, sexual... am I getting close? Or too close?


LOL!

Great post.

Thanks guys.
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Postby ccumm36D » Mon Jan 28, 2008 2:33 am

JohnJames wrote:
ccumm36D wrote:No, she seemed to be the perfect woman, at least your idea of the perfect woman. Good looking, sexy, outspoken, adventerous, uninhibited, sexual... am I getting close? Or too close?


LOL!

Great post.

Thanks guys.


Well? Close? Or not by a mile, JJ?
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Postby JohnJames » Mon Jan 28, 2008 2:53 am

ccumm36D wrote:
JohnJames wrote:
ccumm36D wrote:No, she seemed to be the perfect woman, at least your idea of the perfect woman. Good looking, sexy, outspoken, adventerous, uninhibited, sexual... am I getting close? Or too close?


LOL!

Great post.

Thanks guys.


Well? Close? Or not by a mile, JJ?


On the nose actually.
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Postby ccumm36D » Mon Jan 28, 2008 2:59 am

JohnJames wrote:
ccumm36D wrote:
JohnJames wrote:
ccumm36D wrote:No, she seemed to be the perfect woman, at least your idea of the perfect woman. Good looking, sexy, outspoken, adventerous, uninhibited, sexual... am I getting close? Or too close?


LOL!

Great post.

Thanks guys.


Well? Close? Or not by a mile, JJ?


On the nose actually.


BOOYAH! BINGO! YAHTZEE!
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Postby some1new » Mon Jan 28, 2008 12:14 pm

Yeah, same here CC...maybe I never looked at it so bluntly before. But you seemed to get just a little too right.
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