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Hello MDGirl. What kind of behaviors of yours have been pinpointed as failures to your marriage?

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Having read the rest of your post I must complement you on your rhetoric. You are quite articulate. I will comment on what I can.

mdgirl wrote:1. I am obsessed with my looks. It doesn't help that I am considered a Milf and I get ALOT of attention from guys, especially the younger guys. I also look way younger than what I am which drives me further into dating young immature guys.

Something to brag about but doubtfully the source of your problems.

4. When I cheated on my husband with younger men, I did not want to hurt him. I just craved the excitement. I was not looking for sex, I was looking for an emotional attachment to them. Whenever my husband and I fought, it was an excuse to go out to find someone else.

How did you feel when you got into a fight? How did your view on your relationship with your Husband change? Do you think you can care about his feelings at brief periods of time? What does alcohol do to your empathy? Do you feel guilty or shameful for your actions?

5. I do not think I like hurting people but they get hurt because its more important for me to feel good.

Histrionics often have a difficult time introspecting, so I will assure you this is almost always the case.

6. I know what I am doing but rarely do I care.

When do you care?

7. A part of me wants to get caught so I can shove it others faces "look what I can do, I can get anyone I want" and to feel superior to my husband.

Explain why you would like to feel superior to your Husband.

9. I not only have the looks but I am considered very nice and sweet. I can charm anyone I meet. I can play whoever you want me to be. More times than not, I play the sweet quiet girl who will seduce the hell of out any guy behind closed doors.
Very rarely do i play the "bitch" because most guys do not like that.

Have you ever met a narcissist? Someone who would and could resist you?

11. I make my relationships more than what they really are. I fall in love very easily. I even believed that I was in love with my own cousin and there was a "connection" that never really existed other than him being my cousin.

When did you stop believing in this? What happened when you had your epiphany?

12. The worse thing a person can do is compliment me on my looks. It goes straight to my head and feeds my problem.

What do you mean by it goes straight to your head? Does some aspect of your view on your relationship with the person suddenly contort itself or change?

13. I look for "relationships" in every aspect of my life. From coaching soccer, to nursing school, to my kid's school functions, to even church when I was a teenager(I no longer go to church as an adult but even thought of going back to church just to meet a guy).
Sick ---> especially because I am atheist.

Ah. How much do you care about your kids? How do you believe you treat them? How do others accuse you of treating them?

15. I am very egocentric and think I am all that.

How do you handle criticism? Have you ever been clinically diagnosed with HPD or NPD?

I want help and I want to get better. I want my marriage back...sometimes I just don't know how.
Sometimes I get mixed up on "who" I am going to be today..will I be nice and put others first or will I be self centered?

How has your relationship with your husband played out excluding the more negative aspects?

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Histrionic and narcissistic pathologies are discrete. Consider this fact when considering your husband as a narcissist.

You seem much more astute and willing to introspect than any pathologically histrionic person I have ever met. How intelligent are you? Do you believe yourself to be comorbidly pathologically narcissistic? If not, why?

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mdgirl,

Welcome to the forum.......... I appreciated your post, it
verified thoughts I've had about my exHPD. I loved that girl
with all my heart, but she could never be happy with
one guy........ she had me totally confused until I discovered
HPD. I wish you would stay and help us........And maybe we
can help you too.....

WN

Kane wrote:Histrionic and narcissistic pathologies are discrete. Consider this fact when considering your husband as a narcissist.

You seem much more astute and willing to introspect than any pathologically histrionic person I have ever met. How intelligent are you? Do you believe yourself to be comorbidly pathologically narcissistic? If not, why?

By the time I got here she had deleted her posts but thanks to Kane and his 17 quote boxes I think I caught most of it.

This one is really simple, Kane. You got sucked in!

She seems "much more astute and willing to introspect than any pathologically histrionic person..."

Because she's not pathologically histrionic!

No true H/NPD would EVER make those comments.

She has tendencies to be sure, if what she's saying is true. She has boundries issues of biblical proportions but she is not truly disordered if she is aware of these things. She just sounds spoiled.

ccumm36D wrote:

Kane wrote:Histrionic and narcissistic pathologies are discrete. Consider this fact when considering your husband as a narcissist.

You seem much more astute and willing to introspect than any pathologically histrionic person I have ever met. How intelligent are you? Do you believe yourself to be comorbidly pathologically narcissistic? If not, why?

By the time I got here she had deleted her posts but thanks to Kane and his 17 quote boxes I think I caught most of it.

This one is really simple, Kane. You got sucked in!

She seems "much more astute and willing to introspect than any pathologically histrionic person..."

Because she's not pathologically histrionic!

No true H/NPD would EVER make those comments.

She has tendencies to be sure, if what she's saying is true. She has boundries issues of biblical proportions but she is not truly disordered if she is aware of these things. She just sounds spoiled.

Nonsense. Review #11.