Can someone tell me..

Optimist77 wrote:I keep getting messages like this:

"I am sending some magic to you"...

What does that mean.?

I think you really are oblivious when it comes to read hidden meaning. Reading about that woman I don't get the feeling that she is HPD, or maybe just a very mild form. It seems more to me that she has some form of obcessive crush on you.

The entire thing about staring at you blankly: acting this way is rarely asking for attention, its more the person doing it for herself. Also about the slowing down when getting near you to look at you, but without actually trying to come in contact with you. She doesn't seem to try to harass you; but act as if you were part of some kind of fantasy to her.

IMHO it's not an histrionic per see, but just a very eccentric person that fell for you.

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I think you really are oblivious when it comes to read hidden meaning.It seems more to me that she has some form of obcessive crush on you.

We had an incredible eye contact in the beginning. It felt like she could pierce though my eyes, enter, and slide down to my heart.

Well, the story goes like that:

I had been married for 7 years with a lovely wife, but unfortunately my lack of attention and immersion into my work, drove her away.

Soon after, I met a girl, who had just got married to a friend of mine. We were all in the same line of business, and spend a great deal of time together. I was drawn to her from the beginning. We became very close friends during her marriage, BUT never crossed the line of unfaithfulness in any way.

She got divorced two years ago, and I dived into a pursuit, to conquer her heart.
We got together a year ago, and my happiness was going to open the world of opportunities, I thought.

She was not an easy person, but my initial excitement blinded my analytical mind.
I tried, and tried to make her happy in any conceivable way. I trusted that reciprocity would come with time. I was wrong, The more I tried, the more difficult it got.

I took up the role of a caring “Husband”, took care of everything while she was contemplating life. We have had some happy periods, but I always felt that she is different in some way. She blamed that on her sickness. First Bolemia, then manic depression. I am not a shrink, but I knew that something was wrong.

We live on her parents property who simply micromanage everything. She lost interest in all prior activities that were pleasurable. Crisis Situation.

Well, she bailed out while I was on a business trip. Had a short affair, then wanted to be with me on a much looser string. I told her, that I wanted more than that.

So, the "sending you magic" message sounded more like a carrot rather then a crush on me. The relationship has been an absolute rollercoaster for me.

Intense love, then withdrawal, depression, then exhilarating obsessive compulsive madness and hyperactivity.

to give you perspective, it is like moving from the real world to fantasy island, and back and forth....

She likes to be with me, for sure, but she does not want to come down to Earth.

The plays are getting wackier. I want a solid relationship, which she really needs too. What is you take on this??

Ahhhhh.... then I take back everything I said. There is a big part I missed: the way you were talking made it sounds like there never had been a relationship, just a customer that got very infatuated into you.

Reading what you just posted, yeah it sounds kind of HPD.

Peptron,

Your last post was not about my situation at all. It was someone else.


She was just a customer, and we never had a relationship.

The staring thing makes sense, I guess.

Next time maybe I'll wave.

I really appreciate everyones input about this matter.


Thank you again.

Ah! Big error number 2. Seems I mixed Ohioguy1002 and Optimist77's stories.

So if I'm correct Optimist77 is with the HPD and Ohioguy1002 as an eccentric admirer.

Optimist77 wrote:We had an incredible eye contact in the beginning. It felt like she could pierce though my eyes, enter, and slide down to my heart.

Aren't you being just a tad over romantic/dramatic yourself?

I take things at their face value.

When I an told that" "I love you, and I want to be with you forever", I assume that it means something.

When we redecorate an entire house, I assume that my partner is looking forward to serious relationship.

HPD, NPD give you an impression that they want something from you, in which case, it might not be YOU what they want, but only the things that you are able to provide them with.

So, romantic or not, I do not just imagine things.

I might be gullible, or suffering from a form of NPD myself.

Optimist77,

We had an incredible eye contact in the beginning. It felt like she could pierce though my eyes, enter, and slide down to my heart.

Hey that's good. You should write romance novels.

Romance is a good thing. Us guys should encourage each other to be more romantic towards that little special someone.

P.S. How do you use those special functions like "quote", "bold". etc..


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Peptron,

On second thought, about the slowing down staring thing; I think I will just assume her eye sight is failing and for a moment she has be confused with someone else.

Thanks again - there's more to this maybe I will post it. However, I did attempt to qualify her, so I am not total oblivious to hiiden messages.

Thanks again

P.S. How do you use those special functions like "quote", "bold". etc..

Click on the quote icon. The entire text will come up. Keep the text that you wish to quote and paste it between:

Ohioguy1002 wrote: .......text here

I am romantically inverted into a Narcissist.

Does that make me a RINPD?? Romantically Inverted Narcissist....