HPD men? Question from a NON

Have you ever went back to an ex that you ended it with? And is it typical that an HPD not make a clean break but leave the door open so the Non is confused if it's actually over? I'm guessing this is to keep the supply in place. What is it that will make you want to stay in contact?

I am almost positive my ex has HPD and he kept saying I will find someone better than him who can give me what I deserve. Yet he has been texting me everyday and friends, calling, and driving by seeing if I am with someone else already. It has been 1 month.

I think that the greatest sense of security arises from keeping lovers around while not being committed to them. You can't really get abandoned, because (1) you're not fully committed, and (2) the lover is not the main / only person you are attached to, so there's the security of redundancy.

On top of all of that, incidentally, by keeping a smart person who really loves you around long enough (I'm talking years / decades), at some point you do develop some deeper, truer things with that person, even if it's not the mate you chose to be with.

Am not diagnosed but have a lot of traits as a man, but do not understand #1 relationships, I just imitate other people and have figured its prob cus they see something in it #2 Do not understand messy breakups so always do it clean #3 Do not understand this ex rule that you can't go togethet with your ex. Why?

All I see is a pack of apes feeling hormones and ######6. Nothing more and the feeling that I have liabilities in this life of a party of mine feels anxious and repulsive. All I need is money in order to back up the things I like to do which is A) partying B) Music C) Intimacy. Its almost like you kill the love with liabilities other people have as rules. Tell me why the hell would you make the love of your life a dishwasher.

If the relationship again goes to bust I care for the other and for me to end it there temporarily until things go back to normal. So I can't handle conflicts and instead want to please you. So I please you by cutting it off until I can please you again, cause I get very anxious from stress and especially from conflicts so I avoid them at all cost leading to a rather life of a party avoid responsibilities kind of life style.

However if I meet someone else I do not feel that much liable to you again and if you ask I'll ofc lie cause I do not want to hurt you.