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Incredibly confused about my sexuality

Postby kibpd24 » Thu Dec 29, 2016 3:53 pm

I have HPD and, for me, that means that I 'fall in love' with people who give me attention. I often get crushes on many people who sit near me in classes who talk to me/joke with me and I can't help it. This doesn't really bother me. What bothers me is it's everyone, regardless of gender. I've known for a while that I liked women and I considered myself a lesbian but I often find myself getting crushes on men as well??? Is it just because of my HPD constantly making me attached to everyone or am I actually bisexual?
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Re: Incredibly confused about my sexuality

Postby irlart » Fri Dec 30, 2016 10:34 am

I'm actually in a very similar situation, I usually identify as bi because I sleep with both men and women. However, I am (fairly confident) I'm only attracted to women because I never think about men "in that way" and any attraction I feel to men is usually shallow and only based on them giving me attention.

So given that I'm only really attracted to women sexually, I should probably identify as a lesbian but it's too confusing to explain to others that I also sleep with men for the attention so I'll probably keep on identifying as bi.

I guess you should try to understand what you define as true attraction and see if you actuallly feel it towards men or not. This is a personal definition but to me it's simply who do I fantasize about.

Also remember, you don't need to define your sexuality if you don't want to. I hope this has helped a bit.
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Re: Incredibly confused about my sexuality

Postby Fr4nz83 » Tue Jan 03, 2017 4:02 pm

Well, don't feel ashamed to be attracted towards men AND women :)

If I remember correctly, it's fairly common for HPD sufferer to be bisex...it can be related to the disorder, or not. Anyway, this does not represent a problem, since sexual tastes are perfectly fine as long as you don't hurt anyone.

The important thing is to tackle effectively the disorder, i.e., go to a therapist.
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Re: Incredibly confused about my sexuality

Postby vertices » Wed Jan 11, 2017 10:10 am

Your sexuality is the one you actually enjoy having sex with. If you haven't, then try it, and you'll see what I mean :?
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