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Guilt?

Postby Fletch » Fri Nov 11, 2016 2:37 am

Everything I've read talks about lack of remorse and empathy, yet my exHPD's ex-husband told me that the day she cheated she was overly affectionate when he came home from work, and gave him lots of compliments and praise. She acted similarly with me.

If HPD's don't feel guilt, why this behavoir? Or do they? Is guilt different than remorse or empathy? Or is she not HPD?
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Re: Guilt?

Postby ridingthewtfbus » Fri Nov 11, 2016 6:28 pm

I doubt it's empathy. More like covering slimy tracks to avoid getting caught. Buttering up attention supply #1 while she secretly preps attention supply #2 for his turn on the [***mod edit***] carousel.
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Re: Guilt?

Postby sibrii » Sun Jan 01, 2017 2:19 am

That ego function is usually externalized and regarded as needlessly constraining....of behaviors that both hurt others and are regarded by the afflicted as the only way to get certain needs met in a needlessly harsh world. So when I react to simple feedback on my behavior like, "ARE YOU CALLING ME A SLUT?", I generally take heed of the childish defensive egocentricity and start to reflect on my recent behavior and its potential impact on others.

And the cutting remorse of KNOWING I've hurt others in ways I've been hurt, pain from past injuries too horrible to face? It doesn't feel good. A huge part of recovery seems to be making choices that guide ones behavior out of consideration for others that challenges the authority and the strength of the threats of internalized tyrants by making the world less horrid FOR OTHERS.
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Re: Guilt?

Postby yoyo5113 » Tue Jan 03, 2017 6:33 am

I think a major misconception about people diagnosed with HPD is that they are always manipulative and self centered in a conscious manner. A symptoms list to HPD is like labeling depression as "just sad" . The way my HPD expresses is basically a tornado of talking, lies I don't mean to say, impulsive emotions and decisions and a lot of low self esteem, regret and definitely guilt.

For example, being a diagnosed HPD, I don't actually do anything on purpose. I would love nothing more than to blend in, and to just enjoy what I have. What is so mentally torturing about this disorder to me is that no matter what I do, when I am around people it is just a automatic switch and I almost watch myself become a raging HPD!

Basically, what I am trying to say is yes, a HPD diagnosed person can definitely feel remorse, empathy, sympathy, and guilt and just about every other emotion out there! Hope I helped answer your question!! :D
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Re: Guilt?

Postby octopuslol » Tue Jan 03, 2017 1:47 pm

There are varying levels of emotional empathy in histrionics afaik. Some have very high, some have very low. It's quite possible he was genuinely remorseful.
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