HPD and Suicide

Yes my HPD girlfriend has threatened suicide before. Now mind you this was before I ever new what HPD was. So now that I know about HPD and what she was up to it really was very hurtful to me. HPD's are freaks of nature and I honestly dont think anyone will ever truly understand them. Its very deep inside them whatever causes this craziness.

I think the notion of dual diagnosis [aka co-occurring or co-morbid disorders] needs to be taken into serious consideration in this area... Oftentimes, HPD co-occurs with some type of Axis I mental disorder (i.e. depression, bipolar d/o, psychosis, etc.) and the suicidal ideation and/or attempts are more a symptom of the afflicted individual's mood disorder, for example, than of HPD.
Also, BPD (which carries a great deal of suicidality) and HPD are in the same "family" and frequently present many of the same issues, so it can be hard to tell if a person has one or the other (or both) of these PD's--especially when they bring suicidal gestures or threats into the picture.

I am so glad I saw this. This behavior from [name] has been worrying me for a long time now, and I can never tell whether or not they mean it. Yes, I'm being serious here: people who are as gullible as me sadly do exist. I am constantly terrified that they will kill themselves over me, and that I will have to carry the responsibility with me for the rest of my life--my responsibility because I stuck with them for too long, caring about them too much and thinking I could help them (insert laugh track here?) when it was impossible. I hope this will never happen again, but I don't know. It's been a repeat occurrence.

Thank you, this time.

I am a recovering histrionic, beginning to heal after intensive therapy. I have had two suicides in my birth family. Neither one was diagnosed with HPD but both were extravert, larger than life people. My mother, who was also disabled, would often have hysterical outbursts, and the other member of my family was in the acting profession, the life and soul of the party. Both suicides were sudden and unexpected, whether they were gestures that went tragically wrong, l don't know. l made an attempt to slash my wrists during a row with my abusive ex, but this was done in front of him, and was probably a dramatic cry for help. This led to my diagnosis. During the worst periods of my disorder, my moods were intensely felt, but short lived. ln fact the day after my attempt l was laughing and joking in the hospital ward. After that last time, eight years ago, the thought of suicide has never crossed my mind. Knowing how painful it is to be bereaved by suicide, l would never inflict that pain on my loved ones, but l have come a long way in recovery. l dont use the word "cured", because l will never be cured but l have learnt what my triggers are and this has enabled me to alter my thinking patterns. Life is a precious gift, it is not a rehearsal, and although l believe in an after life, there are no guarantees. This current life time is the only one l will get and l dont want to mess it up. l feel strongly that histrionics should definately enter treatment, and if my posting on this site encourages just one histrionic to enter into treatment, then my own experiences will not have been in vain. There is a real danger that attention seeking gestures can go tragically wrong. The story of the boy who called wolf springs to mind.

Mine threatened suicide a lot from age 16 onward... .now she's 60 some..........

Usually it was a tool used to control others...........

But once she had alieanated everyone in the entire world I think she really did want to die.......

but she couldn't quite pull the trigger (she told me once)...........

She's more stable now............

I think, once a histrionic has alientated everyone, there is a real danger of suicide, as they are completely alone, devoid of attention. lt's extremely sad. l think it is important that they are motivated to seek help, before it is too late, but sadly so many will not. Therapy is changing me, slowly, steadily and l can't emphasise enough the importance of therapy. Believe me, histrionics, the "happy" world you exist in is an illusion that will come crashing around you if you do not seek help. Therapy has enabled me to begin to experience "normal" emotions, and as my sense of empathy has increased, a deeper conncetion with the world around me. l no longer feel alone.