Possible HPD? *possible trigger*

Hi everybody, I was hoping to get your advice. My name is Ashley... I have BPD and I am pretty sure a friend of mine may have histrionic personality disorder. I was hoping you could listen and see what you think.

So the first thing I noticed about this girl. She was very expressive... almost too expressive. She could tell the most enchanting stories and I actually admired it about her. It was something I had never seen before. She would often hijack conversations and make them about herself. I didn't really mind. She was a little explosive and had a very low stress tolerance. Very small things would make her explosive. I know that sounds a little BPD but... I digress.

She was a very sexual person. I am as well so we really bonded over that. She would say extremely suggestive things that would make my jaw drop and she would easily change the subject. Very forward suggestive. The third day I spoke with her she showed me her fetlife beaver shots. I have a problem where I can justify any behavior so that didn't really seem strange to me at the time.

I wasn't really attracted to her - honestly, I don't think she was attracted to me either. But at least every time I visited her, she would say something that would just make my jaw drop it was so forward. I thought she was just nympho or something but I don't think that's the case. Anyway, the one day she asked if I was attracted to her. I didn't really give her a straight answer but. I found it flattering. I don't like sleeping with friends because it can really change the friendship.

Anyway, this is not healthy and I realize this, but I agreed to sleep with her because I was afraid of her making a bad decision. Normally, friends with benefits should be pretty simple but she was still more interested in trying to seduce me. I wasn't very receptive to it, but she said the chase is the fun part. She was heavily into BDSM and she was polyamorous. She often objectified me.

The things about this girl - her way with words was just unparalleled. She could make anything a riveting story. Her expressive body language and the way she would word things was like no one I had ever met. I thought she was the smartest, most confident person but over time I started catching the errors in the things she would say. She was very stubborn about her opinion and being right, even if what she was saying didn't make sense.

Her behavior started getting more and more extreme. The sexually suggestive comments never stopped they never phased me. She started hanging out with me in the nude and would go out of her way to try to get me to be aroused. She started masturbating one time and made me watch her. The next day she started masturbating in the car while I was driving. She said she wanted me but I never really got the impression she truly did. It was like... she wanted so desperately for me to be attracted to her even she would pretend to be attracted to me.

Honestly I think she wanted me around as a source of attention? I don't mean to sound salty about it but overall it was a confusing situation. It was hard to share my emotions with her because she would always one up what I was going through. She would always redirect the conversation to her. She was just like this I don't think she meant to do that. I accepted it. She seemed to have all of the diagnostic traits. We did have a sexual relationship but for the most part, I didn't want to go there because she seemed like someone who truly needed a friend. We didn't have much of a chemistry. Nearly every time I would see her I would go home thinking "DID THAT REALLY HAPPEN?" because she would act in such a bizarre way. Making me watch extreme porn with her and stuff. She was a self professed exhibitionist but she didn't seem to have appropriate boundaries as a friend and that's why I think it's more than just being nympho or an exhibitionist.

Thank you for the read!

Thanks for sharing such a great post!

I wouldn't know the first thing about if she is or isn't but the fact you are here means you care enough about to to help her. so that's awesome!

I do care about her a lot. I've told her she seems to have a lot of the symptoms and she'll be speaking with her psych. She did agree that she did have a lot of the symptoms.

Maternal seductiveness question:
Now, I've been out of work but I've basically been her sugar baby and her my sugar mama heh. 7 days in a row she'd take me out for dinner. Do you think that being a sugar mama could be a sign of maternal seductiveness, considering she's taking care of me since I'm not working?

I try to ask her not to but I really seem to not have much success.