Best threads for my ExHPD to first read here?

My ex was rushed to the hospital this morning by her husband (divorce is finalized next month). Turns out she has alcohol caused liver damage that is the worst for her age (34) the Dr. has ever seen.

According to her, she self-diagnosed HPD years ago as a way to rationalize her behaviors to her husband. When he started looking into it more and taking it seriously, she wanted him to forget about it. She did go to therapy for an unknown period of time. I think it was pretty short lived.

She left (was kicked out by) her husband, to be with me (because she cheated on him with someone else prior to talking to me). Then I caught the same guy at her house in her bed 5 months later, and broke up with her.

I have tried blocking for NC, but now her husband and I are buddies (ironically because I thought he was an abusive monster) in part because we get along well, but mainly because of a shared experience with the woman- who is like no one else we have ever met.

Back to today. I just composed a long, caring email to her, in which I again mention the HPD and this board. I was going to paste the link into the email, when I started browsing over the threads, and I'm realizing that there are so many nons with anger/hurt/resentment, that she will most likely take a glace at the topic and close it out.

Are there specific threads that are really good for someone with a very defensive and closed mind to first look at? Thanks