by xdude » Mon May 09, 2016 10:42 am
Hi Jammo,
Personal opinion here (i.e., not fact), but I think it's a simplification to say that HPD is strictly about seeking attention. It's just the aspect that is most visible to others, but it's not the entire set of feelings, beliefs, perceptions, etc., that the person with HPD feels and thinks.
That written, it's worth pondering that BPD and NPD types also may go through the idealization and devaluation phases with others, and that cluster B disorders exist on a spectrum. In terms of attention specifically, of course there is the obvious ego boost, but I think at least a few factors are also key -
1.) It's probably more correct to say that 'new' attention, or 'quantity' of attention is a motivator.
2.) That attention can be motivated by the need to be in control of what is going on around the person with this disorder; i.e., if you are busy focused on me, I am in control of what is going on around me.
3.) Attention seeking can also be a method to keep the person's focus off their own true feelings, and focused on 'the show'; i.e., also a mechanism to control self.
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