When does an HPD know when to settle in a relationship?

I was one diagnosed with HPD and I'm starting to realise just how it's affecting my relating with men.

I'm wondering if a histrionic ever knows when to settle for a man, or if there will always be the lure of others and past-lovers? I've been together with one guy for a year, and he came in from saving me after a very stormy, long-distance relationship that awoke the strongest feelings in me ever, but was very hard to get over (I don't know if I still have). Now, my current boyfriend is a good guy. He has a lot of patience with me, has good values, works hard, seems to bring some order to my life (in fact, he shows signs of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). I've read that HPD and OCD are a classic match, but is it a good match? I find myself missing the strong feelings I had in the relationship before, and the great love-making. But I know that what I have now is a relationship based in reality. I just doubt if I really love him. but then again, I wonder if someone with these personality traits will ever be fully sure if they love someone. I seem to be only really good at loving images, at a distance and men who are a bit unavailable. My current guy is super available. He hardly gave me much space in the beginning, so I don't know if I really had the total infatuation stage.

Look forward to hearing your reflections and experiences.

I always ended up with manic depressives, horrible match. In a relationship, I found out that without the fighting and mutual need for each other there was no "passion". I found it completely addictive as I live for drama and if there is none, I will create it. However, people don't like that. If someone is ALWAYS making me happy and does not appreciate drama (ignores it, blows it off, refutes me, "I know you want attention but I can't give it to you if you won't answer") like I do... It won't end well. I settle into a relationship when there's fire. I can't (and won't) do it if they're always obsessed with me and never giving me any friction.