Angry unknown?

by **Roni** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 2:11 pm

My HPD can be showing every nonverbal sign of anger, but vehemently deny that he is angry.

The few times that he has admitted being angry, he has said things like "you know just how to make me angry." He also blames his behavior when angry (or anytime) on me- I know how to "push his buttons." It's my fault what he feels and does, even if I've done nothing except try to communicate with him and express my thoughts and feelings.

I've told him that that is the exact same reasoning that abusive men use when they hit their partners (although he doesn't hit me). That doesn't go over well, of course, but it's true.

Hey Roni,

Yeah - I am the one who gets him really angry yet I do nothig wrong - but he is not physical or verbal. My existence gets him angry.

We are fighting right now over property that we sold. He wants to take it to court because he has this grandiose idea that he will get what he wants. He is angry that he has to pay me child support and alimony now that the mortgage is paid. He thinks that he deserves everything because I didn't work for 8 years (raising my little children who are still little)

He has this "God Complex" - He goes to mass every Sunday but feels that he can do whatever he wants. The total justification is when they can actually convince themselves that they've convinced God that they can do whatever they want.

I am religious and spiritual - and that is where I get my strength.

Angry unknown?

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