I have a quick question. Do those suffering from HPD generally use blame-shifting as a coping mechanism or a manipulation tool? Or both?
My recent ex, who has a lot of histrionic traits, recently found an incredibly clever way to shift blame for the failure of our entire relationship onto me (I told him I didn't want to remain friends so he was angry). I know it's illogical, but I'm trying very hard not to be affected by it. If my self-esteem was what it used to be and I didn't have such knowledge of manipulation tools, I'm sure it would work perfectly.
He has such a capacity for reading people and recognizing their weak points. I just wonder whether he realizes, or if he really thinks of himself as the victim.
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Blame-shifting: coping mechanism or manipulation tool?
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Blame-shifting: coping mechanism or manipulation tool?
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Re: Blame-shifting: coping mechanism or manipulation tool?
by creative_nothing » Wed Apr 13, 2016 1:29 pm
Sometimes people end up believing their own lies.
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Re: Blame-shifting: coping mechanism or manipulation tool?
by hamrosso » Sat Apr 16, 2016 2:51 am
yes, HPDs love to gaslight. They are toxic people and i think they are the worst out of all the PDs to get into a relationship with. Remove yourself from the situation, heal and move on. However, you can seriously improve many aspects of your life after getting hurt by a HPD, because in a strange way you self reflect and improve on whatever flaws you have. They seem deep, profound and mysterious at first, but soon you realize they are just lost souls. Emotionally stable people who are looking for a healthy relationship simply cannot relate to their games, manipulation and need for attention. I know people who have sought revenge against their exPHD and i don't blame them since their actions scar others for life. But try to move on peacefully if you can, best of luck.
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