Do HPD women try to seduce every man they meet, or only the

Do HPD women try to seduce every man they meet, or only the men who they are actually genuinely attracted to?

There is a woman in my dance class who I have known for a year, and I'm sure she has HPD. She fulfills 7 out of 8 of the DSM-5 criteria for HPD.

The following is one of the criteria listed in the DSM-5: "Interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior".

Not surprisingly, when she dances with me, she often makes outrageous and inappropriate physical contact with me. I won't go into the details of the physical contact (she's quite creative and has many ways of making that extra physical contact in various situations), but suffice it to say that it involves our private parts, and also that that kind of contact is unnecessary and not required by the dance at all.

What I am surprised about is - she doesn't seem to do this with any other guy in the class. I've observed her dancing with about 20 other guys (we practice partner rotation in class while dancing), and she seems to always be dancing "clean" with the other guys. I have also asked a few of the guys in my class, and sure enough, they all say that she has never behaved in that manner with them.

The key question I want to ask here is - is it normal for a HPD woman to pick just ONE man to try and seduce? I thought that since HPD women want to attract mens' attention, and since she is still young and attractive enough to pull this off with the men that she meets, it stands to reason that she should do this with every man in the dance class, right? Especially since dancing itself is already an activity that provides her with ample opportunity to show her inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior. So why does she seem to be targeting only me?

By the way, this HPD woman is married.

HPD women, do you try to seduce most men that you meet, or do you pick your targets very carefully and NOT seduce other men even when there are plenty of opportunities to do so? Men, if you've been hit on by a HPD woman before, have you observed her hitting on many other men as well, or does she target only you?

Please share your experiences. It does not have to be in a dance context, since seduction can occur anywhere.

Just remember to use condoms

Do HPD women try to seduce every man they meet, or only the men who they are actually genuinely attracted to?

In my case, I seem to unintentionally act flirtatious and seductive without realizing I'm doing it. Its just my natural way of interacting with people.

For instance, sometimes women get upset at me and forbid their husbands to talk to me anymore. This always amazes me. I thought I was just being friendly, but they would think I was trying to seduce their husband. I would never seduce or sleep with a married man, for the record.

Other men have accused me of leading them on, teasing them with the possibility of sex, while I thought we were just friends hanging out. It always amazes me when others accuse me of being flirtatious and seductive, when I thought I was just being normal.

Intuitive_Insight wrote:Men, if you've been hit on by a HPD woman before, have you observed her hitting on many other men as well, or does she target only you?

Ok, when you say "hit on" I'm going to assume "flirted with". The woman I know who has many HPD traits used to flirt with me and two other guys. Sometimes it would be me exclusively. Other times she would flirt with one of the others. Never all three of us at the one event. It was like she decided before she arrived who she was going to flirt with and who she was going to "punish". It was classic jealousy triangle stuff. There was nothing innocent about it like Justagirl's.

Maybe you both are misunderstanding her , if just a girl has her histrionic traits and people misunderstand her as flirtatious , It's possible that the same is happening with you (also possible to be happening with you fishing-mad), I'm kind of delusional when it comes to girls too.

Is there a definitive answer for this? The HPD that I know is only obssesed with me, always copies and does the "mirroring" stuff with everything I say and do.

Its like she absorbes the bests parts of my personality and uses it for her advantage against other people. Its truly amazing and frightening at the same time. Luckily, personalities cannot be copied, fails, and the truth always gets out there. Hey! I kinda started talking off-topic but whatever, I ask again: Is there a definitive answer for this?

^ Based only on what you described, it seens more like borderline.

creative_nothing wrote:^ Based only on what you described, it seens more like borderline.

She could still have HPD instead of BPD because HPD tends to be very suggestible and easily influenced.

I will seduce every man I meet, even lesbians or bisexual girls (I'm straight) but to a different degree depending on how attractive I think they are. If I'm not actually down for the guy, I'll try to seduce them in a way I could still deny when it comes down to getting together/hooking up. If I have a particular target in a group of people, I'll avoid hooking up or flirting in any way that would be too obvious with the other guys, at least not his friends and not in front of him.

creative_nothing wrote:Just remember to use condoms

^ 100% this