Does she have hpd?

Ok first the warning signs these are things she said:

- She is a tomboy gets on with guys and doesnt with women
- She said can seduce any man
- Gets bored so easily
- Is not the type to have relationships or a partner
- Has no maternal instincts
- Loves excitement
- Was bully at school and was very badly behaved at school
- Dad was god-like figure who always forgave her died when she was young
- Had stomach pumped for alcohol at 10
- Shes is the 'black sheep' in her family
- Said she cant really take care of herself

Her behaviour

Cant believe when I found about this condition that it was like reading a list of all her traits

- Highly sociable loved to be the centre of attention very competitive with other girls
- On the outside came across as the nicest most sociable girl. Very successful at work and outwardly seems really together
- Lies and stories that dont add up.. people trying to kill her, illnesses
- She used seduction to get attention and friendship from men we met for the first time and it was like shed fallen in love with me. Very weird and intense, constant emails texts and over-friendliness... makes you feel like the 'one'
- Demanded constant attention
- Is attractive
- Would give her number out to ANY guy.
- Would moan about guys trying to hit on her but then kept them as friends.
- Would leave social events with guys who were just mates
- When I would cut contact or ignore having had enough she would come back very strongly begging almost for attention either by leaning into me or putting the waterworks on.
- Had alot of drama in her life which she required help with
- Heard stories about her being involved with other guys or leading them on
- No consideration for others feelings guys she leads on then plays games openly trying to make me jealous sometimes
- As soon as she knew I was onto her became distant and found out she had started seeing another guy who she detested before. YET she still is violently denying anything making up stories about who she is with even though it is so obvious and easy to see.

At work she is very well liked as they just think she is very nice and friendly. People will think im crazy for suggesting she has this problem but they dont know her like i do.

I think my main questions are

- does she know shes doing this
- is the lying part of some master deception to keep all her guys in line
- is it hpd or shes just a female 'player'

Shes HPD. Lying is something they do without thought. They pathologically lie. Imagine acting. You are the actor and on stage. In order to give the best act, you purposely think of life experiences that induce specific emotions. Eventually, even if for an instantaneous moment, you feel as if you are actually the character. You believe what you say. You would pass a lie detector test on what you say, without question. This is an HPD's mindset - always and forever.

Is it worth confronting her because I need to vent before I go. I want her to admit who she is and all the fake warmth towards me. I guess she will never admit to anything...

its quite amazing how bad it is. Very elaborate stories to cover her lies and amazingly quick.. however there is that microsecond blank face when shes making up the story and she avoids eye contact.

guesthpd wrote:Is it worth confronting her because I need to vent before I go. I want her to admit who she is and all the fake warmth towards me. I guess she will never admit to anything...

If she wants to keep you (for a while) she'll admit to anything you ask her. Yet this does not mean that she would not reject her admission of guilt one week or month from now.
Since lies for hpds are a means to keep victims' attention focused on them, she could say how sorry she is, how much remorse she feels, blah blah blah.
She won't be feeling those emotions. It's part of her histrionics, her acting, the drama, aimed at keeping you around if she still finds you useful.