Hi everyone,
I have been perusing the forum in the hope of getting some information that might help me with my situation.
I believe my SIL has unHPD and possibly BPD. She did once mention to our MIL that she was once diagnosed with ADHD (not sure if that's true) Her marriage to my BIL is quite new, about four years and they dated briefly before then. There are lots of reasons as to why I think my SIL may have a PD, some of the red flags come from the fact I was once in a romantic relationship with someone with NPD, so I have noticed some of the signs, whereas other family members don't.
I was just wondering how those diagnosed and getting help were able to realise that they were having problems. Was it something you realised yourself, did a loved one try and help, maybe a partner? Also how did they go about it? Were you accepting, or did you fight against the help?
Maybe you're someone who has had to help a loved one or partner with HPD, how did you go about speaking about it with them? I don't think my BIL would even consider that his wife has a PD, I'm not sure many people even realise about them. And I wouldn't even know how to approach the subject with him. Some members of the family put my SIL's behaviour down to possible depression. But I think it's much more than that. She has been described by many as being 'toxic.' She certainly always seems to be causing fall outs, issues and arguments and is the kind of person unfortunately you don't enjoy having around you.
Whilst I realise my SIL and I are very different, I would at least like to have some sort of relationship with her. But currently the way she acts makes this very difficult. And puts a huge strain on many members of the family.
Any insight would be gratefully received.