Trust wall

Hi all,

I'm a Non that posts quite a bit in the SO forum. However I have a question that maybe someone here can answer.

I know a (early 50's) woman with what some call Passive-Aggressive HPD. Millon calls it Tempestuous (Negativistic) HPD. It seems quite rare.

This woman is quite social (goes out a lot etc) but is also somewhat of a hermit. She lives with one of her sons and two of his friends (all in their mid 20's). To my knowledge only her sons friends visit their home. I don't think she has many friends and as far as I know none of them visit her she visits them.

I don't think this woman is promiscuous but she does see men from time to time. Again they meet somewhere neutral (and distant) and/or she goes to them.

In short she seems to have a "wall" around her. She'll discuss things (emotional and other) up to a point and then you hit the wall. I envision this wall as very high and smooth (nothing to hang on to). I don't know what's on the other side. I'm not sure but I think this wall is there for everyone except for some of her sons.

I suspect this a trust issue. If no-one can get around the wall they can't hurt her--at least not deeply.

Does any of this strike a chord?

PS: I hope none of this is triggering.