How to stop befriending admirers?

I find it hard to connect with people who do not appreciate me in a superficial way. If someone fails to compliment me or give me attention, I no longer feel interested in their friendship. Which is why my friendships are complicated and often fail. I don't treat people well sometimes. I prefer to test how much my friends admire me. I like friends who willingly encourage me or tell me I am beautiful. If my friends fail to do this, I am completely disinterested in their presence. I don't care if they attend events as they don't seem to fulfill my needs. I want to overcome this because I do think it effects my friendships negatively.
I act very provocatively when around certain people. I do not care what they think about me. I love being envied. If I think one of my friends is jealous I will be happy about it. I think a lot of my friends are in love with me.
I sometimes act sexual towards people I am not attracted to. Because I think it's fun but people find it frustrating. I constantly go up and down with my body image and need others to constantly reassure me. Although I think I am confident. I enjoy reassurance. I find it difficult not to flirt with people, or at least lead them on.
I have noticed my friends are all very kind to me and act like some kind of admirers. Is there a way to prevent this cycle? I think it is shallow and leading to people questioning my sincerity as a person and a friend.

Hi bluebak,

I don't know of any quick way to stop lifelong habits but to practice, and maybe work with someone to simultaneously work on what's behind the habits.

It is interesting that among the cluster B personality types, and maybe especially AsPD, NPD, and HPD, these types all have good ways of keeping relationships 'shallow', maybe because by keeping others at a distance, and positioning ourselves (mentally) in a way that is beyond emotional reach, it is 'safe'.

xdude wrote:Hi bluebak,

I don't know of any quick way to stop lifelong habits but to practice, and maybe work with someone to simultaneously work on what's behind the habits.

It is interesting that among the cluster B personality types, and maybe especially AsPD, NPD, and HPD, these types all have good ways of keeping relationships 'shallow', maybe because by keeping others at a distance, and positioning ourselves (mentally) in a way that is beyond emotional reach, it is 'safe'.

IMHO it applies to BPD as well.

I have found a way
Think of them as useful in different ways as opposed to just physical reassurance. I tend to use people for connections or knowledge that they have which I do not have. Everyone is good at different things and you will ALWAYS learn something knew from each person you come in contact with. You never know who knows who or what ties they have that will be able to help you reach your goals either now or in the future.
Took me a while to notice this but when I did it helped my relationships. Don't get me wrong they are still shallow and I cannot see the same person more than once a week without getting really frustrated. Just keep them at a distance, complement them, and each time you do see them or speak to them all they will have are fond memories and will be more than happy to help you