What does this mean?? Histrionic??

Constantly seeking reassurance or approval

A lot of times I'll showcase one of my talents like singing a song or writing a poem and inside be very upset if no one compliments me on the job I did. Also, I tend to make leading statements such as "I think I'm good at writing" or even "I think I'm bad at writing" just to get reassurance from them that I'm as good as I think I am (because in reality, unless someone tells me I'm bad at something, I tend to believe I'm good at it). I never outright ask "Do you think I'm good at writing?" because I'm afraid of their critizim and I do not want people to think I'm concerned with what they think. I'm a bit obssesed with how people perceive me and a lot of my actions are based on that.

Excessive dramatics with exaggerated displays of emotion

Alone, I'm comfortable because I don't have to put on an act. When I'm around people, a lot of times I tend to pretend to feel an extreme emotion like hyperactivity or anger to get people to notice me. This doesn't always come out as I sometimes have rare moments where I feel like I'm really being me (but that's usually either when I'm alone or very few people are around me).

Excessive sensitivity to criticism or disapproval

If someone critizes something about me, I tend to feel that they must be right and telling the truth. I get really hurt. But, I don't want to believe that so, then I convince myself that they must be speaking out of jealousy. Sometimes, I even fool myself.

Inappropriately seductive appearance or behavior

This comes out of me randomly. I am constantly hanging around guys and flirt A LOT. I often make sexual jokes and imply that I want their sex, even if I don't. I love it when guys play along with this because it somehow makes me feel attractive. I pay attention to the signals they give me in order to make them like me. Even if I'm not romantically interested in them. These would be other senerios in which I am obssessed with the way I'm perceived. Also, a lot of times when I'm with guys (or really people in general) I have the need to feel as attractive as I think I am. So if anybody (especially a guy) says anything at all to HINT that I'm not attractive, I get crushed.

Overly concerned with physical appearance

I wouldn't say this. I don't wear make-up unless it's a special occasion. Also, it takes me around 30-40 minutes to get ready in the morning because all I do is shower and throw on clothes. I like to feel pretty but, even when I don't look my best I have this odd confidence. I believe I'm pretty and I want others to believe so as well but, in a natural way. I want to be recognized as being naturally beautiful.

Tendency to believe that relationships are more intimate than they actually are

Definately. Sometimes I even feel as if people that I've just met may turn out to be great friends with me. I often look at a person and think "I should meet her because it seems as if we could be great friends in the future" or even "I should meet him because he might be a future love interest." Then, if the person I meet seems to want to get to know me, I get carried away and call them a "friend". Though sometimes I feel as if I don't have many true friends; only aquaintances that I call "friends".

Self-centeredness, uncomfortable when not the center of attention

I can be self-centered but, so can everyone. Most of the time, I'm not. I love helping people who need it and I'm proud to say that I'm always there for my friends. I often put the needs of others before myself. I'm a great listener and love to learn about others.

Well, a lot of times, when I'm not the center of attention, I am uncomfortable. But not all the time. Sometimes I even dread it because I want people to just leave me alone and I sometimes crave solitude and isolation from people. Those days, although I love it when people call me, I don't answer the phone because I just do not feel like talking to people. I can be a very quiet reserved person and there are times when I enjoy my alone time. I am sure that if I had to live alone, I could probably handle it most of the time.

However, in those moments when I really, really crave attention I go OVER-THE-TOP to get it. I'm serious. I'll dance, shout, flirt, sing, tell jokes, talk about nothing, act up A LOT...WHATEVER it takes. On days where I REALLY, REALLY crave attention I dress in a crazy way so that people look at me. I like it when people look at me. It gives me confidence. I often don't care if it's negative or postive attention; just the fact that people see is enough.

Low tolerance for frustration or delayed gratification

I'm not sure exactly what this entails but...I do hate dealing with other people's frustrations as people are often too eaisly frustrated and make little things into huge things. I also really hate complainers. As far as delayed gratification is concerned, I do despise it. If someone asks me for a favor or something and I do it, I expect as least a sincere "thank you". One of my pet peeves is people who are not polite and who don't appreciate the things they have.

Rapidly shifting emotional states that appear shallow to others

I'm an actress (literally- I love acting). I act like an actress in real like as well- I've even been told that by three of my friends. It often feels as if I'm performing on stage, doing everything in an extremely dramatic way. And it often to works to get the attention.

Opinions are easily influenced by other people, but difficult to back up with details

All the time. I swear, I don't know what I think about anything. I steal ideas from others and pass them off as mine but, when deeply questioned about why I feel that way, I usually can't answer and eventually get really frustrated and try changing the subject. I'd make a horrible debator.

"Low tolerance for frustration or delayed gratification

I'm not sure exactly what this entails but...I do hate dealing with other people's frustrations as people are often too eaisly frustrated and make little things into huge things."

I think this refers moreso to the HPD's frustration than the HPD's tolerance of other's frustration.

I think what it means is an HPD is more likely to give up on a difficult task than a non HPD as I believe its saying HPD's hate frustration.

"As far as delayed gratification is concerned, I do despise it. If someone asks me for a favor or something and I do it, I expect as least a sincere "thank you". One of my pet peeves is people who are not polite and who don't appreciate the things they have."

This can be an HPD thing as Emotional Vampires says true giving is doing something for someone and not expecting anything in return.

"Opinions are easily influenced by other people, but difficult to back up with details

All the time. I swear, I don't know what I think about anything. I steal ideas from others and pass them off as mine but, when deeply questioned about why I feel that way, I usually can't answer and eventually get really frustrated and try changing the subject. I'd make a horrible debator."

Yeah several HPD's have told me that they try to find their real selves but always end up taking on their current love interest's or friend's personalities and interests in a superficial way simply because that comes naturally to them and they are mostly empty without doing this.

So from reading your latest post do I think you have HPD?

Probably.

To be professionally evaluated for it though I believe you must be 18.

KontrollerX wrote:"Low tolerance for frustration or delayed gratification

I'm not sure exactly what this entails but...I do hate dealing with other people's frustrations as people are often too eaisly frustrated and make little things into huge things."

I think this refers moreso to the HPD's frustration than the HPD's tolerance of other's frustration.

I think what it means is an HPD is more likely to give up on a difficult task than a non HPD as I believe its saying HPD's hate frustration.

"As far as delayed gratification is concerned, I do despise it. If someone asks me for a favor or something and I do it, I expect as least a sincere "thank you". One of my pet peeves is people who are not polite and who don't appreciate the things they have."

This can be an HPD thing as Emotional Vampires says true giving is doing something for someone and not expecting anything in return.

"Opinions are easily influenced by other people, but difficult to back up with details

All the time. I swear, I don't know what I think about anything. I steal ideas from others and pass them off as mine but, when deeply questioned about why I feel that way, I usually can't answer and eventually get really frustrated and try changing the subject. I'd make a horrible debator."

Yeah several HPD's have told me that they try to find their real selves but always end up taking on their current love interest's or friend's personalities and interests in a superficial way simply because that comes naturally to them and they are mostly empty without doing this.

So from reading your latest post do I think you have HPD?

Probably.

To be professionally evaluated for it though I believe you must be 18.

I think you should consider the possibility she only has a histrionic style.

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Overly concerned with physical appearance

I wouldn't say this. I don't wear make-up unless it's a special occasion. Also, it takes me around 30-40 minutes to get ready in the morning because all I do is shower and throw on clothes. I like to feel pretty but, even when I don't look my best I have this odd confidence. I believe I'm pretty and I want others to believe so as well but, in a natural way. I want to be recognized as being naturally beautiful. "

Her "being there for her friends" also made me question. I'd say chances are <90%. She sounds more... AvPD and histrionic personality than anything. (Just making a random guess at AvPD, honestly.)

Edit: When I say she sounds "more...", I mean that the chance of my possibility existing is significant. She definitely does sound HPD.