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by **ANYGUY** » Sun Dec 31, 2006 8:39 pm

Bittersweet...

This is classic. I always try to get people to like me intensely, and ya know, need me. When they do, I totally back off and it gets annoying how fiercely they begin to like me. This is classic.

Yeah, my HPD/BPD does exhibit NPD tendancies.She enjoys the feedback, I give her immensly. The feedback I give her is more along the lines of validating her that she is attractive, etc..

But is providing any positive feedbackm projecting me as being needy? Also, why is it annoying that a person really begins to like you? IS it because the challenge dissapated so quickly?

Soulsearch

the longer you stick around the longer it is going to take to get your thought processes back to normal.

Things will definitely change. She is leaving the company in a month. Whether I like it or not it will spell the end of our relationship.

they love to exert control and the game is all about control and subservience.

Ain't that the truth. I need to stay away from her as much as possible. Just to ensure she doesn't assume leaverage over me.

The thing is, I want to in my own way punish her for her behavior. I know it's best to walk away. BUt all the way through, from my having an attraction towards her to keeping it strictly as friends, she has these expectations that I adore her, and she can do as she pleases without any regard for my own emotional needs.
I mean walking away is what's best, but I want her to also feel and show some pain. That way I can close the book.

Have her feel pain, not gonna happen. You will and I repeat, will continue feeling as long as you play the game. SHE WINS. She is not going to feel a thing. Ignore her and you may win. Next time she engages you in conversation redirect in the fact you are digging the chick in human resources. She will tell you some horseshit story about how terrible someone or some predictument she is in to gain your attention. Just stay the course and act board and how you need help with this f___ bunny in human resources.

by **Dan** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 12:00 am

I still have that question. Since I am her boss and own the company, does f"ing me gain her control over me and my biz. I am married and she normally goes for losers, easily controlled. She can control a married man with threats of exposure and a lawsuit. Be the queen bee....... Does this make me a greater more important target for my HPD?

by **Daniel** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 1:01 am

Also, why is it annoying that a person really begins to like you? IS it because the challenge dissapated so quickly?

Yes and no. That is one of the reasons. It also becomes annoying because these idiots actually believe that I like them and that I want to be friends with them.

Most of the time, I want them to like me. They just expect too much back.

But is providing any positive feedbackm projecting me as being needy?

Not always. Sometimes though. PM your questions to me.

Daniel

by **Dan** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 2:34 am

I exposed myself over the last few days.. Today I was a train wreck early on. I did figure it out my sorrow however. I exposed my HPD and she showed her true self, three partners in as few months. She told me so over the last couple of days. I felt guilty for my actions may have caused this. I had a major problem with this fact, My actions caused her to go into major HPD mode, sleeping around. I felt guilty and much pain over this. My wife pointed this fact out, I did nothing but ask not to hear personal stuff from her anymore, to painful. My wife also said, my pain is my strength, I feel and have empathy for others, very mush what I taught my wife about HPD. This why my HPD can and continues to be a problem for me.

by **ANYGUY** » Tue Jan 09, 2007 6:19 am

[b]I still have that question. Since I am her boss and own the company, does f"ing me gain her control over me and my biz. I am married and she normally goes for losers, easily controlled. She can control a married man with threats of exposure and a lawsuit. Be the queen bee....... Does this make me a greater more important target for my HPD?

You are a greater more important target for your HPD because you are the challenges of challenges. You're the big boss, which represents power, You are married and You're not tempted my her sexual manipulations. Is her motive to take over the biz? Who knows, but she definitely wants to put you under her spell at any cost.

You know what you're dealing with. Trust your intuition and don't expose yourself to the potential loss of your business.

I exposed my HPD and she showed her true self, three partners in as few months. She told me so over the last couple of days. I felt guilty for my actions may have caused this. I had a major problem with this fact, My actions caused her to go into major HPD mode, sleeping around.

Why are you feeling guilty about your actions? She's a big girl. You've been manipulated into being responsible for her behavior. Here you are the bad guy causing her to come off as some kind of victim. To hell with that. You are showing tolerance for this stuff, which is the last thing to do if you want her to straighten up.

Don't carry your HPD's burden.

by **Dan** » Mon Jan 15, 2007 4:34 am

She quit on Tuesday afternoon. I went on a delivery with a different girl, She normally went with me. She started a lame argument with one of my Sales ladies and walked out when I returned. I did not chase her this time........ She called me at closing time and said I can't work with those ladies anymore. I said sorry your leaving and what do you plan on doing? Her jaw must have hit the floor. In the past I would talk Her down, playing into her attention seeking posture. Every day I feel twice as good as the previous day, I HAVE MY LIFE BACK......... I BEAT THIS THING AND FEEL WONDERFUL.

by **Dan** » Mon Mar 19, 2007 1:33 am

She first asked for a reference a month ago. I know owning my own business you need to give a good one. She called to let me now about the lies she told in her interview. She needed to coach me so she would sound creditable. I did this and she is quiting the job and needs me again. She called saying what a crappy outfit this place is, NATIONAL CHAIN THAT IS FULL OF WOMEN BUT NO MEN. She applied for a accounting position at a construction company, PLENTY OF MEN TO MESS WITH. She wanted me to lie about her being competent with Quick books and Excel. That she was still working for me and needed to expand her horizons. I wanting revenge finally said, I can do but let's catch up at your place. She said fine but canceled a few days later. Whats funny is she told somebody I know that I was coming over for SEX, and she can do without my reference. SHE HAS FINALLY DONE IT, CONVINCED HERSELF I WANT TO F-HER. I told everyone at work and my wife I had trapped her. WHAT SURPRISES ME IS, SHE FINALLY CAN GET PAST NOT NAILING ME. SHE CAN LIVE WITH THE DREAM I WAS GONNA NAIL HER FOR THE REFERENCE. (she can spin this into I wanted her all along)

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