Constructive Criticism on My HPD Tumblr Post?

I wrote about what HPD is and how I cope with it. Maybe it'll help someone here or maybe someone would like to give me feedback.

http://maliceincandyland.tumblr.com/post/121225344332/histrionic-personality-disorder-for-those-who-have

I LOVED it! I can relate to a lot of that on the list, especially suggestibility and being theatrical. The only criticism I have is the automatic music at the top.

Great job.

Thanks, you're a doll! I know part of it has to do with you having another Cluster B personality disorder, but I wonder if another factor is the fact that we're both INFP. (Isn't that the rarest personality type? What are the chances? )

This sounds exactly like my gf/ xgf.
Thank you

TR_Jessie wrote:Thanks, you're a doll! I know part of it has to do with you having another Cluster B personality disorder, but I wonder if another factor is the fact that we're both INFP. (Isn't that the rarest personality type? What are the chances? )

Probably, as INFP has Histrionic style traits.

Hey TR,

Before responding about the tumblr post (which was quit a compelling read), I admit I rather wished you'd not had linked it, because we've seen people who later regretted revealing too much info about themselves. Not everyone who visits this website necessarily has the best intentions. But I suppose what is done is done, and your blog will no doubt be very helpful to others with HPD and their partners, but separately I may PM you about considering removing the link. That aside,

It's an extremely well written blog with deep insights into self. It certainly matches my perception of the woman I got involved with who I suspected has HPD. A personal story though about that...

Near the beginning of your blog is a comment of "...We can have little to no interest in other people’s problems and we may not experience ‘the joy of giving.’ I happen to like this aspect. Being blinded by emotions and burdened with the weight of people’s problems seems awful..." There is also a lot that follows that is about the person with HPD's needs, wants, how to make them happy, etc.

It reminded me that at one point she had come out and told me 'others like me, they don't like you' The thing about that was at one point after that she had a down point in life, and at that point, very few people made any effort to see her, reach out, etc. She got a couple of short visits, some get well texts, etc, but that was that. She seemed happy about the attention she received, but also perturbed that more of these other people she believed were her friends didn't show a deeper level of concern.

Likewise at another later point I had a down point, and she witnessed the large number of people who came out to support me, who wrote deep heartfelt cards, emails, gifts, efforts.

It did quite a number on her head to see me receive so much attention, and probably a surprise that she entirely mis-understood my relationship with others. She really seemed to believe that just because I'm not highly socially active that meant others had no affection for me. The difference being that I was involved with them, just on a level than includes those aspects of relationships that are not always so pleasant.

Point? Not sure I have one other than for me I definitely prefer quality of relationships, or relationship moments, over quantity. Likewise an occasional moment of sincerity holds greater value for me than quantity of repetitious compliments, attention, etc. The only way I know to have those deeper moments is to be involved at a level that is going to include those aspects of their lives that are 'downers' at times.

I also went out with an HPD who interpreted my not being socially hyperactive as an indication of lower social status. Was kind of annoying because I have a lot of friends but just prefer to chill out and be by myself a lot of the time. Whenever there would be contraindications, it would fluster her quite a bit.

Anywho, the blog was a great read. It captures the moment to moment drama/stress of HPD existence nicely and could help HPDs and nons alike.

Yes, TR's blog really explains a great deal how someone with HPD thinks/feels about self/others. That's rare, because often people with PDs won't, or simply cannot explain what's going on in their heads, let alone write it out so eloquently.

Regarding the social status thought, I guess the main point there was that others don't perceive their deep sense of connection to others as a negative, even if there are times when it means feeling concern, empathetic, etc.

thriven wrote:Anywho, the blog was a great read. It captures the moment to moment drama/stress of HPD existence nicely and could help HPDs and nons alike.

Thank you, though I would like to point out that I don't consider it necessarily stressful or drama-filled to be around someone who has HPD. They may not start any drama and the person's stress isn't necessarily something they would take out on other people.

Yeah, it doesn't have to be. Can be quite fun in fact. I meant the internal drama/stress the person with HPD experiences though.